Why would someone ask you out but always cancel?

[RazorRob305]

Originally Posted by DragonflyRX

I'm in my early 20's and found through dating lots of guys that most guys my own age aren't looking for relationships, but just for fun and casual dating, which is completely fine, but not for me. So I started dating men older than me, late 20's. I figure they would know what they want. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know.

But anyways. I met a guy at a mutual friend's party. We seem to hit it off, we talked all night, exchanged numbers. Since that night we talked everyday for hours on end. Even though we do have friends in common, we never bumped into each other during those get togethers. So, we had a lot of conversations via texting, calling, gchat.

We met for lunch and it went pretty well. He wanted to go to this new restaurant that opened downtown, I agreed, so we made plans. Plans that he canceled last minute. I agreed to reschedule and of course he canceled those as well. But the second time he didn't even bother telling me, I found out an hour before we were suppose to meet when I called to confirm.

After that, we started talking less and less. I never called him again, but he would call me a few times a week. I was never encouraging because at this point, I'd given up all hopes on him, but I was always polite. I just didn't understand why he would still call when he clearly didn't want to do anything.

We are FB friends so he does see my status posts. I post status all the time about events that I want to go see and asking if anyone would be interested in coming to them as well. He responded to them immediately saying that he would love to go, I would say sure, but he would never follow though on these things.

It's driving me insane. I can't stand it when people say one thing but do another. I can't understand it either. He doesn't owe me anything, we're not friends. If he doesn't want to see me, why not just stop all contact? Why bother keeping in touch?

i know you guys are probably going to say to just move on and stop worrying about this. But i really am curious.

I tell you what, I have the same problem with women I meet that seem to be all into me and they make plans or give me their facebook or phone numbers, but they never respond to me when I write them or call....Don't understand it...I'm the nicest guy and I don't look too bad either from what I've heard...look at my pics on my page to see for yourself...but anyways..my advice after being screwed with is cut em off and cut em off quick...

who cares about the reasons behind why the person confuses you or why they don't respond because the little things like that only means that they have no consideration for other people in a small way at this time so what do you think will happen later down the road in a relationship....it's like the movie Bronx Tale where the mob boss tells the kid to give a girl you like the door test..check it out


YouTube - A Bronx Tale - The Door Test/ Full Version

[myrevenge]

^^^Hahaha! Oooh, I failed that test but in my defense it was my first car date. He told me off and I've never failed it since.

[ValueAddedWorker]

Originally Posted by DragonflyRX

But that's just it, he wasn't doing anything better. or anyone for that matter. He was home. he would rather stay at home than keep the plans HE wanted to make.

Sounds like he chickened out. It's a lot easier to "talk" to someone from a distance than meet them face to face. Also I wonder if he's gay with all that chit chat for hours.

[tofur]

He's not that into you. When someone who's into you cancels on a date, they have a good reason and apologize and set another one up, and then show up for it. This dude doesn't seem to do any of that other then cancel on the date.

This goes for both genders by the way. The difference between a flake and a legit cancelation is how they take action after the fact.

[bored chick]

He would rather stay at home because option A probably came over. You are a fallback chick. Delete him, move on, forget about him.