name change upon marriage (women, husband, young, kids)
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I think a woman should do what she damn well pleases with HER name. I don't think anything is wrong with taking the man's name if she wants, but I think this idea that it should be done is an antiquated, sexist notion.
I didn't change my last name. My husband doesn't care. He would've liked me to have changed it but neither of us made a big deal out of it. My in-laws refer to me by hubby's last name though. I guess they are in denial or just assumed I would change. Heehee.
It's no big deal for me though. I didn't change it more out of laziness, not any feministic viewpoints about a woman having to change her name. I do think though, it is an individual choice. My my husband insisted I changed my name, i would've thought twice b'c in the end, it should be my choice. Our kids will have his last name and maybe then I will change, too, just so our kids don't ask, "Mommy, how come you don't have the same last name as me and Daddy?"
I'm divorced with kids that are grown/almost grown. I changed my name when I was young and got married and would do so again.... even knowing the outcome. If I was to remarry again (which I don't plan on doing), I would probably change my name to his. I would not appreciate if he demanded I do this though.... it's certainly one of those things "to each their own" and should be a woman's choice IMO.
What does everyone think about the way so many women elect to keep their own last name upon marriage? Any thoughts on this?
Some women have a well established career or have even published so they keep their names for professional reasons. I ended up taking my husband's name, but I remember being concerned about losing name recognition professionally (hyphenating was out of the question with two very long last names). Luckily, it was never an issue.
What I do find unique is when the man takes the woman's last name or they create a merged last name.
To each their own. But, as people said before, some women have a well established careers and they want to keep their last name. When it comes to me, I changed my last name when I got married, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I guess one thing Im trying to realize, is the true absolute orgin of the name change. Does it have some sort of Biblical beginning? Is it true as has been pointed out to me by someone that it all goes back to some sort of "ownership" of the woman by the man she marries? Iam respectful of all views concerning this matter, but I am also quite curious about how the whole thing began.
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