How many dates do you usually go on before you decide you aren't interested? (boyfriend, single)
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Just wondering, how many dates do you all usually go on before you decide that you aren't interested in someone and decide to stop seeing them? I'm sure it varies, but I'd like to get an idea. Right now, I'm approaching Date 6 with someone who I can't entirely see myself becoming romantically involved with, but I feel like it's too early to throw in the towel because he seems like a good guy. Also, I have paid on several dates, so it's not a situation where I'm using him for free entertainment. Still, I don't want to drag it on for too long or lead him on if I know that it probably isn't going anywhere. So how long of a time do you think is reasonable to wait for romance to blossom if the other person doesn't seem to have any major dealbreakers?
Depends on the person...As for myself I'm a pretty decisive individual and with most people I did enough on the first and second dates to know if I want to cut it off or not.
are you kidding me? how does it take more than 1 date, nay, more than 15 MINUTES tops to not know if you're interested or not?
i would be pretty pissed off if i was interested in someone and they strung me along for several dates before letting me down. fortunately for me my past dates have always been honest so i've never ended up wasting more than 1 date.
are you kidding me? how does it take more than 1 date, nay, more than 15 MINUTES tops to not know if you're interested or not?
Assuming that you didn't know the person well (or maybe not at all) prior to the first date, it would seem hasty to me to not at least go on a second date if you discovered no major dealbreakers during the first. My problem is that I'm not really feeling any kind of "chemistry" with this person, which might be a dealbreaker for some, but I'm trying to give things time to marinate.
Just wondering, how many dates do you all usually go on before you decide that you aren't interested in someone and decide to stop seeing them? I'm sure it varies, but I'd like to get an idea. Right now, I'm approaching Date 6 with someone who I can't entirely see myself becoming romantically involved with, but I feel like it's too early to throw in the towel because he seems like a good guy. Also, I have paid on several dates, so it's not a situation where I'm using him for free entertainment. Still, I don't want to drag it on for too long or lead him on if I know that it probably isn't going anywhere. So how long of a time do you think is reasonable to wait for romance to blossom if the other person doesn't seem to have any major dealbreakers?
Within the last 5 dates, has he done anything to try to kick up your attraction level towards him? Has there been any romantic and/or sexual progression, or are you still ending dates with a handshake and a peck?
Assuming that you didn't know the person well (or maybe not at all) prior to the first date, it would seem hasty to me to not at least go on a second date if you discovered no major dealbreakers during the first. My problem is that I'm not really feeling any kind of "chemistry" with this person, which might be a dealbreaker for some, but I'm trying to give things time to marinate.
to each his/her own i guess. usually if i dont feel a massive spark on the first date, i won't bother pursuing it any further. it just starts to feel forced and un-natural. that's just me tho...
Even if there's a strong interest and good chemistry, I'd end things as soon as a deal breaker surfaces, or a behavior I don't want to accept. That can happen at any time. When I was single, I considered myself somewhat of an expert at breaking up. It was almost like a hobby.
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