So what do you think of this (date, Christian, how to)

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by SummerFall

I met a guy 10 months ago. He had no job and was on disability because he has had a corneal transplant, and cannot see well. Plus, he has a criminal record (white collar) that will hold him back from the type of job he wants. However, he was a friend of a friend of mine that I regard highly, so i gave him a shot.

Started off okay. Nice, romantic, etc. then his colors showed. Very demanding. Always wanted things his way. Told me I didnt dress right, wear my hair right, etc. If I said black, he would say white just to have that control. He is a bible thumper, and would always throw Jesus this and Jesus that at me.

Then, he started slowly asking me for money here and there. I picked up his clothes from the TAILOR(i dont even get my clothes tailored and i work) which cost me $60 bucks. I have picked up groceries for him, fixed his computer, bought him a scanner/printer, a shredder, MP3 player, etc over the 10 months. If we go out to dinner, movies, etc I ALWAYS pay.
Plus, because of his eyes, he cannot drive, and I drive him everywhere.

Took him hiking with me this past Sat. Bought him $40 dollars worth of hiking clothes the day before. After the hike, we were supposed to go out to dinner/movie with friends, but the day before he told me he wasnt going. The day of the hike he changed his mind. I told him I couldnt afford to pay for me and him this time. So i went to the dinner/movie without him. I had really wanted to go, plus i had told a friend of mine to go and bring the kids, so..I would feel stupid not being there.

The next day my guy tells me that If I didnt have the money to pay for him, then I shouldnt have gone either. A couple of his friends agreed. I was like..are you KIDDING ME? What do you think about that?

I think his friends sound like bigger losers than he is.

Pray tell, WHY is he not your EX as of today?

[stan4]

He's on disability but he can go hiking?!

His ass should be in jail for stealing my tax dollars.

[purehuman]

He's been riding free for 10 months at your expence and if you allow it, he'll no doubt continue to use you.....is this what love is like?????NOT!!

[donie1]

I don't know what else to say except ....both of you are losers. Him for the obvious and you for being suckered into his crap. Drop him!

[ChessieMom]

What do I think? I'm thinking why the hell are you with him? I don't know anyone that would keep seeing such a person.

[Ketabcha]

If you don't dump him now then the next step in your relationship will be physical abuse.

[KAILANI]

I can't beileve I was reading your post and you were asking what do we think....

Do you have a self-esteem issue and is he good looking??

NEVER put up with that crap..

You admitted it, he started showing his true colors....
Why have you put up with this for sooo long???????

Call him and say "you know what, I can't do this anymore..I wish you well, god bless"
then HANG UP...

PLEASE. I'd hate for his controlling issues turn to domestic abuse, name calling, isolating, pushing, and on and on until you are broken....

[D217]

Originally Posted by stan4

He's on disability but he can go hiking?!

What I don't understand is why a blind person needs new clothes to go "hiking"... isn't that just like, walking around outside? lol

[bobman]

Do some research on domestic abuse/ domestic violence/ abusive relationships.

If you don't get out of this now, in a short time, I guarantee that you will add to those statistics.

Ask any survivor, this is how it all starts.

Run away, very fast.

[imsh0t]

you sound lonely and depressed with low self esteem. Only a woman like that would even give a guy like this a chance.