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My wife comes from an Italian family. Which means when they get together Everyone talks at once.
As my in-law aunt Rose said about the four bridesmaids; "Look at them. Alll four talking and not a single one listening"
I'm from a German background where everyone talks in turn without interuppting. So when my wife and I talk, sometimes I have to pat her hand for her to stop so I can get a word in. I find this especially irritating when she asks me a question, then continues to talk.
But what is really driving me nuts is that in her household they tell each other thing THREE TIMES. At first I thought it was like sales when you 1) tell someone something 2) explain it 3) tell them what you told them.
It drives me nuts! I feel like someone is telling me like I'm mentally slow. I've pointed this out to her early in the marriage and she said she would work on it. It's a habit and it would take her a while to change it. Well, it's been years. Sometimes after she tells me something three times I'll say; "You have told me three times so I know it's important to you, but I really did hear you the first time"
It can also be when she remarks on something. Her; "Look at the blue house". Me; "Yes, it's pretty it goes nicelly with the red flowers" Her; "It's a blue house" Me; "and the flowers are nice" Her; "it's a blue house"
OK now I feel like I'm dealing with someone mentally challanged. She isnt.
If I try to get her attention right away, I usually have to say her name Three times. And she doesnt even notice that I do it.
Often when telling her something, she will interupt me and ask a question. Unfortunatly it's often like: Me; "Im going to the store to..." Her; "What are you going to get?" Me; "If you would let me finish my sentance. I'm going to the store to pick up milk"
Someone described interupting someone as the mental equvalent to pushing.
Serious? You didn't realize this prior to marriage?
Bottom line--stop answering her...
Her: "Look, it's a blue house"
Me: DEAD SILENCE
...it's been working for me for years.
That reminds me of an old saying...
Women like the strong silent type. They think we are listening.
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