"I don't know you, but you're attractive and I'd like to go on a date with you" (girl, attracted)
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I'm not talking about a stranger going up to you, striking up a conversation, and then asking if you'd like to go out with them, based on the fact that the conversation may have sparked some chemistry between you two.
I'm talking about someone spotting you, becoming smitten by your looks, and then instead of introducing themselves to you and trying to start a conversation and common ground, just saying something along the lines of you being attractive/pretty/hot/sexy and wanting to go out with you. Basically they're asking you out because they think you look good.
Do you find this to be flattering or offensive?
This happened to me this morning. I went to the store for some milk and, out of the blue, the cashier told me how great I looked and that he'd like to go out with me. It was quite awkward because 1). his voice was somewhat loud and the people in the line next to mine could hear, and 2). I was with my son and he seemed uncomfortable with the exchange.
I declined his offer and he persisted for around another minute. I ultimately just said, "Thanks, but no thanks" and left.
Personally, I usually have no problem with a stranger trying to have a conversation with me, and if they ask me out and I'm not interested, I'll politely decline and not think anything of it. But in instances like this, where it's clear that someone is trying to ask me out based on them being attracted to me and nothing more, it's really awkward and uncomfortable.
no, but depending on where it was at, I could go either way. if in front of a lot of people or with a kid, it'd be offensive. At a club or bar where I don't usually go I would find it flattering.
no, but depending on where it was at, I could go either way. if in front of a lot of people or with a kid, it'd be offensive. At a club or bar where I don't usually go I would find it flattering.
I wasn't wearing a bare midriff shirt. In fact, I had on a loose t-shirt and some wind pants.
I see your point, especially if it's at a club. I guess being at a club, lots of people who go there spend so much time on their appearance beforehand that they're just hoping that someone comes up to them because of their looks.
I don't think his line was inappropriate or the fact that he based it off his physical attraction to you. It's not like he's going to say "I think you're charming and intelligent, I'd like to go on a date with you."
What I find inappropriate is for him to do it at work, if he's a supermarket cashier, and persisting after he was turned down. Does he have no self-respect?
What I find offensive is that he did this in front of your child.
I guess it's somewhat flattering when someone finds you attractive. However, I would be offended if someone just asked to take me out because I look good. No thanks. If you don't know me or know anything about me and just want to date me because of how I look, what does that say about you?????
Haha I asked a girl out like that once before marriage. Funny story, I use to walk to class and everyday saw this cute blond girl walking the opposite way, and one day built up the courage to ask.
So during the walk I see a blond girl sitting at a bus stop across the street, I thought it was her and cross the street towards her, as I walked up to her it struck me that this isnt the same girl! I ended up asking her anyway for her number, she said no, I told her she has pretty eyes and from tthat day forward took a new route to school.
What I find offensive is that he did this in front of your child.
I guess it's somewhat flattering when someone finds you attractive. However, I would be offended if someone just asked to take me out because I look good. No thanks. If you don't know me or know anything about me and just want to date me because of how I look, what does that say about you?????
I think it says that he wanted an ego boost; that is, if I were to say, "Yes, let's go out". To me, it seems more like bragging rights as opposed to him actually taking an interest in me as a person (not that I think I'm hot or beautiful or anything; in fact, I think I'm quite average... but I guess in HIS eyes I look that way).
I'm not talking about a stranger going up to you, striking up a conversation, and then asking if you'd like to go out with them, based on the fact that the conversation may have sparked some chemistry between you two.
I'm talking about someone spotting you, becoming smitten by your looks, and then instead of introducing themselves to you and trying to start a conversation and common ground, just saying something along the lines of you being attractive/pretty/hot/sexy and wanting to go out with you. Basically they're asking you out because they think you look good.
Do you find this to be flattering or offensive?
This happened to me this morning. I went to the store for some milk and, out of the blue, the cashier told me how great I looked and that he'd like to go out with me. It was quite awkward because 1). his voice was somewhat loud and the people in the line next to mine could hear, and 2). I was with my son and he seemed uncomfortable with the exchange.
I declined his offer and he persisted for around another minute. I ultimately just said, "Thanks, but no thanks" and left.
Personally, I usually have no problem with a stranger trying to have a conversation with me, and if they ask me out and I'm not interested, I'll politely decline and not think anything of it. But in instances like this, where it's clear that someone is trying to ask me out based on them being attracted to me and nothing more, it's really awkward and uncomfortable.
I get that at times..
I consider it a compliment. Then I say damn Im taken, my loss
Just handle it with class and good humor.
I wasn't wearing a bare midriff shirt. In fact, I had on a loose t-shirt and some wind pants.
I see your point, especially if it's at a club. I guess being at a club, lots of people who go there spend so much time on their appearance beforehand that they're just hoping that someone comes up to them because of their looks.
"Wind" pants?
You were gassy?
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