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You're 25 years old. You had sex with a guy you knew for 2 days. I'm guessing this happens oh, roughly...ALL THE TIME. Should you have waited until you knew more? Of course. Everyone knows the answer to that question. But obviously, lots of people cave. Some regret it, some don't. I had sex with a guy after our first date...many years ago, and I married him many years later. Should I have waited? If I had...would I have my son today?
There are no guarantees in life or in relationships. You may have many tomorrows in front of you, or you may have 5. So you have to take it as it comes, and do the best that you can. If you know you made a mistake, then you try to learn from it, and not repeat it. Use your gut. Pay attention. And for gosh sakes, stop living in fear. Being afraid of getting hurt is just silly. You ARE going to get hurt...at some point, by somebody...or some thing, and more than once! Surely you don't want to dig a hole and climb in, do ya?? LIVE. LOVE. And CRY if you need to. But for gosh sakes...get out there and enjoy life. You only get one!
You're 25 years old. You had sex with a guy you knew for 2 days. I'm guessing this happens oh, roughly...ALL THE TIME. Should you have waited until you knew more? Of course. Everyone knows the answer to that question. But obviously, lots of people cave. Some regret it, some don't. I had sex with a guy after our first date...many years ago, and I married him many years later. Should I have waited? If I had...would I have my son today?
There are no guarantees in life or in relationships. You may have many tomorrows in front of you, or you may have 5. So you have to take it as it comes, and do the best that you can. If you know you made a mistake, then you try to learn from it, and not repeat it. Use your gut. Pay attention. And for gosh sakes, stop living in fear. Being afraid of getting hurt is just silly. You ARE going to get hurt...at some point, by somebody...or some thing, and more than once! Surely you don't want to dig a hole and climb in, do ya?? LIVE. LOVE. And CRY if you need to. But for gosh sakes...get out there and enjoy life. You only get one!
No, this does NOT happen all the time. But to be honest, I'm afraid that he thinks I'll sleep with any guy and therefore, not stick around. You're right, I can't keep living in fear, but I made a terrible mistake that I'm afraid blew something that could have been good. It was a mistake I could have controlled but I didn't and its making me very sad.
No, this does NOT happen all the time. But to be honest, I'm afraid that he thinks I'll sleep with any guy and therefore, not stick around. You're right, I can't keep living in fear, but I made a terrible mistake that I'm afraid blew something that could have been good. It was a mistake I could have controlled but I didn't and its making me very sad.
Listen to the good advice that is being given to you. STOP over-thinking and over-analyzing. You're sabotaging yourself with a relationship that might just be the right guy for you. Also stop living in fear. If you live in fear, you never live. I hope you can enjoy this new relationship and go where it may then stopping it before it ever happened. See where it goes.
No, this does NOT happen all the time. But to be honest, I'm afraid that he thinks I'll sleep with any guy and therefore, not stick around. You're right, I can't keep living in fear, but I made a terrible mistake that I'm afraid blew something that could have been good. It was a mistake I could have controlled but I didn't and its making me very sad.
The mistakes that hurt us the most are usually the ones we can learn the most from
EVERYBODY makes mistakes honey, so quit beating yourself up now. What's done is done and all you can do is vow to do better next time.
And as Lion said, don't be so sure he "got what he wanted" and will move on. You might just luck up and have a guy there who sees enough in you to stick around and see what develops.
You just can't negative thoughts run in your head like this. The fact is you don't know if its a mistake or not, so don't treat it like one.
Me and my fiance got involved before we really knew each other that deeply. I don't regret it and neither does she. Its now history, history we share.
Don't think about it as a mistake. No guy wants to think he was some mistake.
Just get back to being yourself. Good luck and hope some of what I said made sense.
you have a good point. I don't know if he thinks I'm something worth keeping around yet. We're both in our 20's and he's very attractive, could probably get any girl he wants so who knows. Then again, he chose to spend all weekend with me and not some other girl he could have had.
You are not the first girl to post almost the same remark. Insecurity about a guy who is hot and why would he stay with you if he can get others. And the others I saw post the same insecure question were good looking girls just ike you are. But that didn't register because he is hot and there for might go for someone else so is the thought process.
I just have to say this shows how a good looking guy can have power over a girl even when she herself is good looking and how a guys looks do matter and the his ability to foster competition.
So the girl goes into deep analyzation and fosters up her insecurities. And I am not saying you, but in reverse if the guy doesn't give her reason to second guess ( nice guy) some girls are then put off by him being too safe of a catch.
You just can't negative thoughts run in your head like this. The fact is you don't know if its a mistake or not, so don't treat it like one.
Me and my fiance got involved before we really knew each other that deeply. I don't regret it and neither does she. Its now history, history we share.
Don't think about it as a mistake. No guy wants to think he was some mistake.
Just get back to being yourself. Good luck and hope some of what I said made sense.
thank you, it made a lot of sense. and no, he's not a mistake.
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Should you have waited until you knew more? Of course. Everyone knows the answer to that question. But obviously, lots of people cave. Some regret it, some don't. I had sex with a guy after our first date...many years ago, and I married him many years later. Should I have waited? If I had...would I have my son today? 
That was my point. You have LOTS of company!! Stop wallowing in such a self-made pity party. Life is far too short!
