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It was funny. So why do people who have sex get labeled as loose? Personally it doesn't matter to me much in either case. I don't care if you don't sleep with anyone before marriage, why do you care if I do?
BTW, everyone gets labeled one way or another, regarding one thing or another. You might as well get used to it.
This is the answer to which I was referring:
Because what you are saying right there is that you know the right way for everyone else to live their lives.
I would never be so presumptious to tell you go and have sex, it's what I do, and it works quite well for me, so you need to do it too.
Your views don't work for me. Live your life the way you want, and leave others to do the same.
I lived with my husband before marriage, and we were together 18 years until he died. I have sex with my SO, pre-marital obviously and am quite content with that.
actually your answer has been one of the best so far. Some of the other answers from other posters were just attacks
Who cares what others think about your lifestyle choices? As long as you're strong in your beliefs it shouldn't matter if you're labeled a "prude." There are a lot worse things you can be labeled.
I wasn't particularly fond of a religious leader at my school judging me for spending the night with my girlfriend at the time. I was mad at first, but then I realized his opinion shouldn't really matter to me.
Are you kidding me? You tell people that they are living their lives wrong - and you call them judgemental when they disagree with you?
I don't mind people posting their opinions and maybe even being judgmental with me. Say what you think, if it has weight and sense you might persuade me. At the least it was a debate and everybody walks away thinking the same they did.
But to the question at heart. What is considered the ultimate success or failure?
Two who have sex before marriage but end up being together for life or two who wait by traditional code yet hate each other and separate in the end? Did waiting and getting married bring unconditional security?
Who cares what others think about your lifestyle choices? As long as you're strong in your beliefs it shouldn't matter if you're labeled a "prude." There are a lot worse things you can be labeled.
I wasn't particularly fond of a religious leader at my school judging me for spending the night with my girlfriend at the time. I was mad at first, but then I realized his opinion shouldn't really matter to me.
True enough.
Sorry to say this, but I don't think that pastor was judging you. Many times people mistake advice for judgment. Anways, neither me nor that pastor or anyone on this earth have the right to judge because we must look out for ourselves.
I just wouldn't choose it for myself because of the consequences that follow, even with "protection"
I don't mind people posting their opinions and maybe even being judgmental with me. Say what you think, if it has weight and sense you might persuade me. At the least it was a debate and everybody walks away thinking the same they did.
But to the question at heart. What is considered the ultimate success or failure?
Two who have sex before marriage but end up being together for life or two who wait by traditional code yet hate each other and separate in the end? Did waiting and getting married bring unconditional security?
I realize that the situation in your last paragraph CAN happen, but it's not really typical. Anyone can separate whether they followed tradtional code or not. Same goes for being together forever. However, most of the time, I hear stories of people who did not follow the code ended up regretting it later. Just look at the other girls post about "not getting over fear if heartbreak" because she was insecure about the guy "leaving after getting what he wanted."
I realize that the situation in your last paragraph CAN happen, but it's not really typical. Anyone can separate whether they followed tradtional code or not. Same goes for being together forever. However, most of the time, I hear stories of people who did not follow the code ended up regretting it later. Just look at the other girls post about "not getting over fear if heartbreak" because she was insecure about the guy "leaving after getting what he wanted."
I've been with my husband for 9 years. We had premarital sex. We lived together before we got married. We have a wonderful, wonderful marriage based on a solid foundation of trust, respect, love, and laughter. Most of my friends have the same thing. None of my friends followed "the code."
I've been with my husband for 9 years. We had premarital sex. We lived together before we got married. We have a wonderful, wonderful marriage based on a solid foundation of trust, respect, love, and laughter. Most of my friends have the same thing. None of my friends followed "the code."
I realize that the situation in your last paragraph CAN happen, but it's not really typical. Anyone can separate whether they followed tradtional code or not. Same goes for being together forever. However, most of the time, I hear stories of people who did not follow the code ended up regretting it later. Just look at the other girls post about "not getting over fear if heartbreak" because she was insecure about the guy "leaving after getting what he wanted."
Really doesn't have to do with having sex to soon it that case. Some women who have a extra hot guy will worry about him cheating even after they get married because he is hot and women will hit on him even though they know he is married. Isn't any different for a guy with a girl who is constantly hit on.
And people separating after years of marriage happens a lot. In the case of religious code for some they stay together out of code but hate their lives and each other because.
Love, you can't make someone love you. You can make them say it, fake it, but you can't control a person to feel it. God knows that also I think which is why God values your love by your freewill. You can't control the out come of other people. You just live your life and have faith and accept.
Really doesn't have to do with having sex to soon it that case. Some women who have a extra hot guy will worry about him cheating even after they get married because he is hot and women will hit on him even though they know he is married. Isn't any different for a guy with a girl who is constantly hit on.
And people separating after years of marriage happens a lot. In the case of religious code for some they stay together out of code but hate their lives and each other because.
Love, you can't make someone love you. You can make them say it, fake it, but you can't control a person to feel it. God knows that also I think which is why God values your love by your freewill. You can't control the out come of other people. You just live your life and have faith and accept.
Sorry to say this, but I don't think that pastor was judging you. Many times people mistake advice for judgment. Anways, neither me nor that pastor or anyone on this earth have the right to judge because we must look out for ourselves.
To each his (or her) own, but sometimes I don't want someone telling me what to do. I don't think you'd want to hear someone tell you "you should have sex before marriage" but I would guess people have probably done that before and that's why this thread was started.
I was just being honest with the guy by telling him I'd spent the night in her room and didn't have sex. I didn't appreciate a judging look and him telling me I was wrong as a response.
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