If you have a thing for someone, can they pick up on it? (girl, single)
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Sure you can!! (lol, meaning, fight body language.) How? When you like someone, communicate your interest *verbally*, in an appropriate manner of course Easy solution!
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Originally Posted by optiflex
People can't fight body language. It's subconscious and they've been doing as a habit. Most people know about this as tells. In certain situations people do certain things with their body. Women expose their wrists to guys their interested in. They touch them while their talking to them. They brush their hair in front of them. Some are much more obvious about it than others.
However, young women have learned, or adapted, or evolved to throw out these signals constantly at males. Either they're horny all the time, or they've just learned guys fall all over them when they do it. Thus I get a lot of guys saying "I think she's into me". They're into anybody who can do something for them, these days. Basically a girl will come up to a guy twice her age these days, throw out all these signals and then ask him for a cigarette. Then he'll turn to another guy as she walks away and say "was she hitting on me?" No she was using your ego against you to get a cigarette. It works because the guy says "No I think you're wrong, she was definitely hittin on me!"
When I was a high school sophomore, there was a freshman at my school and I could pick up on signs that she had a thing for me.
And I was her type.
But I never asked her out. And now she doesn't like me (as a friend or as relationship material). I don't remember when exactly she stopped liking me, but I know during my senior year she didn't like me anymore. Maybe she's upset that I never asked her out.
That's why I wish it was more socially acceptable for a female to ask a male out.
Once a woman sends out what she considers unmistakable signals and feels she has be snubbed-then the hell-has-no-fury-like proverb might kick in.
In such a case it's just best to simply stay out of her way.
People can't fight body language. It's subconscious and they've been doing as a habit. Most people know about this as tells. In certain situations people do certain things with their body. Women expose their wrists to guys their interested in. They touch them while their talking to them. They brush their hair in front of them. Some are much more obvious about it than others.
However, young women have learned, or adapted, or evolved to throw out these signals constantly at males. Either they're horny all the time, or they've just learned guys fall all over them when they do it. Thus I get a lot of guys saying "I think she's into me". They're into anybody who can do something for them, these days. Basically a girl will come up to a guy twice her age these days, throw out all these signals and then ask him for a cigarette. Then he'll turn to another guy as she walks away and say "was she hitting on me?" No she was using your ego against you to get a cigarette. It works because the guy says "No I think you're wrong, she was definitely hittin on me!"
One time, there was an older woman (early 30s) that touched my knee. Older than me, but young enough to be attractive. And I could pick up on signs that she had a thing for me.
I wonder if that means anything...
Last edited by city_data91; 06-20-2011 at 09:15 AM..
It all depends on how much they want that person to know they are attracted to them. Some are more obvious, some are more subtle, and some don't give off any clues whatsoever. But that's only half of it because the person who is the object of someone's desire, may not be good at picking up on signals or maybe they think that every person who is nice to them is hitting on them. It helps to know a little about the person...are they aloof and need a ton of bricks to fall on their heads or do they assume that everyone who is nice to them is chasing them? Or are they the type who is nice to everyone and they aren't treating you any more special than anyone else? Observe how they treat others as well.
One of my ideal scenarios is
1. A girl picks up on signs that I'm into her
2. She also has a thing for me
3. She tells me she has a thing for me
When a guy makes it obvious, that sometimes means he wants the girl to notice and admit she has feelings for him. But it could just mean the guy is bad at hiding it (if he makes it obvious).
Once a woman sends out what she considers unmistakable signals and feels she has be snubbed-then the hell-has-no-fury-like proverb might kick in.
In such a case it's just best to simply stay out of her way.
So you're saying if I don't ask her out right away (after she shows signs), I should avoid her?
Because I would have gone out with her when she showed signs. But I don't know how to ask a girl out, so I never did. She probably thinks I didn't want to date her, but that is not true.
However, now, because of the way she's acting, I wouldn't want to date her.
It's a shame that a potential relationship and a potential friendship was ruined just because the male is expected to ask the female out. As I said on another post, I wish it was more socially acceptable for a female to ask a male out. Because then none of this would have happened.
Some people say you can pick up on it when someone has a thing for you. But I don't believe that. You hear people wondering if someone has a thing for them. If they could tell, there would be no need to wonder.
They might think someone shows signs of having a thing for them. And I've picked up on signs like that before. But there is no way to be sure if someone has a thing for you.
What I've noticed is that a lot of guys won't pick up on certain signals or they'll read too much into someone's behavior. For example, if a woman is friendly with a guy, he'll conclude that she's attracted to him when really she's just being friendly. Likewise, a lot of guys will try to hide their interest in a woman, pretending to play it cool. What they don't realize is that they're not being subtle at all and she's figured out that he likes her. Sometimes I can tell when a woman is interested in me and sometimes I miss it. Thankfully, I've never gotten it wrong where I thought someone was interested in me when they weren't.
Some people say you can pick up on it when someone has a thing for you. But I don't believe that. You hear people wondering if someone has a thing for them. If they could tell, there would be no need to wonder.
They might think someone shows signs of having a thing for them. And I've picked up on signs like that before. But there is no way to be sure if someone has a thing for you.
You can't really generalize this. Some people think that anyone who speaks to them first, has a "thing" for them. Some people could have someone climbing all over them, every chance they get, and still not realize the "climber" has a thing for them.
Because human beings are so individualized, the "climber" could simply be a friendly, vivacious, fun-loving, playful person...and the "shy avoider" could be the one who has the crush on you. There is only ONE way to know if someone has a thing for you. Ask them out! There is only one sure way of letting them know you have a thing for them....let them KNOW...ask them out!
One time, there was an older woman (early 30s) that touched my knee. Older than me, but young enough to be attractive. And I could pick up on signs that she had a thing for me.
I wonder if that means anything...
Surely even you kid on this one? Was this a 5th or 6th grade event?
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Originally Posted by city_data91
One of my ideal scenarios is
1. A girl picks up on signs that I'm into her
2. She also has a thing for me
3. She tells me she has a thing for me
When a guy makes it obvious, that sometimes means he wants the girl to notice and admit she has feelings for him. But it could just mean the guy is bad at hiding it (if he makes it obvious).
You've only in the last few days decided after a dream that you might even contemplate a relationship with a female but of course it has nothing to do with sex. Why does all this matter? You've been given links to "asexual" websites even though you don't understand what "asexual" actually means (!) Good grief, get some counseling, child or at least obtain some basic knowledge about vasectomy and castration. Your knowledge is all over the place.
With all due respect, it almost occurs to me that your Mummy made fun of your teeny childhood thing and then spun some yarn about vaginas having teeth which bite off little prospective entrants. You just are so darned mixed up.
It's very sad that, on another of your threads when I suggested some reading material, you said that you don't read either for pleasure or, as little as possible, books where your college studies are concerned. The way you phrased it seemed to indicate that you were almost proud of it. I found that very sad indeed but also know that, thank goodness, you're not typical of your generation in this regard.
With all due respect, your lack of reading knowledge/comprehension and basic inability to absorb the written word may well be indicative of a simple learning disorder or ADD. I just thought I'd mention this again even though it's been mentioned by many posters before.
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Originally Posted by beachmel
You can't really generalize this.
Sorry to cut off most of your post but this is like a brick wall thread which renders respondents either aimlessly hammering their heads, searching for vomit icons or simply walking away and ignoring. The latter of course is what I should and need to do.
DONE!
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Easy solution! 
