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I love the show "Millionaire Matchmaker", but don't often hear about match making services (and especially for those of us who aren't millionaires! haha). Have you or anyone you know used a match maker and had success with it? I like the idea of having someone screen through potential matches for me, yet he/she isn't a friend (which can get tricky). I'm sure it's harder than Patty makes it look on the TV show, but I still think having a personal match maker is a cool concept! (p.s. I'm not talking about the "It's Just Lunch" scheme.)
I haven't seen the show, but I could probably be a good matchmaker, since I know a little bit of astrology. I would probably have to check all the aspects of the candidates.
I love the show "Millionaire Matchmaker", but don't often hear about match making services (and especially for those of us who aren't millionaires! haha). Have you or anyone you know used a match maker and had success with it? I like the idea of having someone screen through potential matches for me, yet he/she isn't a friend (which can get tricky). I'm sure it's harder than Patty makes it look on the TV show, but I still think having a personal match maker is a cool concept! (p.s. I'm not talking about the "It's Just Lunch" scheme.)
He/she says "Oh, can you fix me up with someone slim, young, very good looking and rich would be nice" and I'd be ready to kick them the **** out of my office but if he/she says "I'd like to meet someone who is serious about wanting to be married" and I know that he/she is good material.
This topic raised my curiosity. For those who have tried it, (specifically but not exclusively the two previous posters), how does the compensation work?
I would have thought that common sense would call for some reasonable flat fee for their basic time (a few hundred dollars?), and then the bulk of their fee if you get married within, say 2 years, to anyone to whom they introduce you.
Presumably they would keep an eye on the civil records to keep cheap-clients honest.
Or did they charge per introduction? If so, wouldn't there be some kind of Checks & Balances so that you are assured of being introduced to someone who meets the criteria you have discussed with the match maker, and another so that you could welsh on a good intro.
This topic raised my curiosity. For those who have tried it, (specifically but not exclusively the two previous posters), how does the compensation work?
I would have thought that common sense would call for some reasonable flat fee for their basic time (a few hundred dollars?), and then the bulk of their fee if you get married within, say 2 years, to anyone to whom they introduce you.
Presumably they would keep an eye on the civil records to keep cheap-clients honest.
Or did they charge per introduction? If so, wouldn't there be some kind of Checks & Balances so that you are assured of being introduced to someone who meets the criteria you have discussed with the match maker, and another so that you could welsh on a good intro.
If they charged for each marriage or for each introduction, I would not have a problem with it. But, paying a monthly fee and no results just goes against the grain.
1. Dating coach had a fixed monthly fee with various options, no contract and the ability to cancel at any time. Originally guaranteed a certain number of matches per month, but later withdrew that offer after the fact, several months into the subscription, while doing nothing real for the months prior to that (can you say, "bait and switch"?). At that point it became something like "I'll see what I can do, but no guarantees". That was the red flag that in retrospect, I should have heeded, and listened to my gut and terminated the service, but I had bonded personally with them, to the point where I considered them a close friend -- and they didn't hesitate to use that in their favor, in a manner running against my basic interests and needs. Ended up paying nearly $3k or so into the service for a little over 1.5 years, with nothing and no benefits at all, from the service. The one person the dating coach did briefly set me up with (very briefly) actually ended up being a psychotic, verbally- and emotionally-abusive sociopath, so I don't exactly count that as a service rendered, either.
2. The brick-and-mortar service had a fixed fee somewhere in the range of about $5k or so, with about 30 guaranteed perspective matches that they screened your for using the online dating service database. No introductory fee, but no guarantee that a succesful match would successfully happen, either. Also, an "all sales final" prospective (i.e., "buyer beware" scenario). No luck at all in this arena either -- and after a while, they stopped matching me, entirely (haven't had any matches for going on like 6-8 months now, despite their earlier guarantee). ETA: not really an issue currently, as I eventually found love, and entirely on my own initiative.
Both scenarios were a colossal failure. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have wasted my money, or even bothered with them. Alas...live and learn
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Originally Posted by Ed_RDNC
This topic raised my curiosity. For those who have tried it, (specifically but not exclusively the two previous posters), how does the compensation work?
I would have thought that common sense would call for some reasonable flat fee for their basic time (a few hundred dollars?), and then the bulk of their fee if you get married within, say 2 years, to anyone to whom they introduce you.
Presumably they would keep an eye on the civil records to keep cheap-clients honest.
Or did they charge per introduction? If so, wouldn't there be some kind of Checks & Balances so that you are assured of being introduced to someone who meets the criteria you have discussed with the match maker, and another so that you could welsh on a good intro.
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 07-05-2011 at 03:47 AM..
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Thanks for sharing, Knight,
And Way To Go on finding love on your own. Maybe you can consider the fees to have been a Good Value for your later Good Karma? <LOL>
Thanks for sharing, Knight,
And Way To Go on finding love on your own. Maybe you can consider the fees to have been a Good Value for your later Good Karma? <LOL>
Many thanks for the very kind compliments there Ed_RDNC!
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