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Has anyone here ever converted to a different religion for a relationship? If so, what was your experience like with family, friends, etc. Did it work out in the end?
Reason I ask is because I have been talking to a Muslim woman for a couple years. We met about 5 years ago and started talking again about 2 years ago. She's married but she hates her husband. We started out just talking as friends but eventually grew relatively close. Close to the point where there may be feelings on both sides. Now I am not really a religious person. I'm a Catholic by upbringing but that's the extent of it. She is a practicing Muslim. In order for me to be with her I would have to convert AND practice. Now normally I would have no problem converting and calling myself whatever I had to to make this work but the practicing part is what's holding me back. It's something I'm working on. I'm trying to reevaluate my religious beliefs to see if it's possible. Anyway, I was just curious if anyone here has had the same experience?
Converting religions can work if the person converting isn't too attached to their previous religion (which it sounds like you aren't) and they don't have qualms about fully joining the new religion (which it sounds like you do.)
Honestly, the bigger concern for me would be that your potential GF has no qualms about getting close to you and causing an issue in her marriage. I'd worry that same level of faithfulness would translate into any relationship you formed.
Has anyone here ever converted to a different religion for a relationship? If so, what was your experience like with family, friends, etc. Did it work out in the end?
Reason I ask is because I have been talking to a Muslim woman for a couple years. We met about 5 years ago and started talking again about 2 years ago. She's married but she hates her husband. We started out just talking as friends but eventually grew relatively close. Close to the point where there may be feelings on both sides. Now I am not really a religious person. I'm a Catholic by upbringing but that's the extent of it. She is a practicing Muslim. In order for me to be with her I would have to convert AND practice. Now normally I would have no problem converting and calling myself whatever I had to to make this work but the practicing part is what's holding me back. It's something I'm working on. I'm trying to reevaluate my religious beliefs to see if it's possible. Anyway, I was just curious if anyone here has had the same experience?
Im thinking you better get religious very soon if you are planning on getting involved with another man's wife. You could very well meet your maker quite soon.
Last edited by LaoTzuMindFu; 07-21-2011 at 07:47 AM..
I wouldn't get involved until her divorce is finalized. Regarding religions, personally, I would not change my belief system since that is something dear to me. Anyone who wants to be involved with me would know that firsthand. My boyfriend and I are of different faiths but he is not active in his at all and doesn't even believe in it.
I have heard of Muslim women converting to Christianity so I am not sure why she is saying she cannot convert because I don't find that to be true.
One thing you might want to consider would be raising children if you ever get married. I have already had that discussion with my boyfriend and it's a conversation worth having.
Its wrong to change your religion because of a relationship. You should change your religion because you actually BELIEVE in the other religion. If she truly loves you then she will accept your religion as it is. In fact in all honesty that is good test. Simply tell her that you love her and want to be with her, but you are not fake, and will not become a muslim. Then see if she loves you more or her religion more.
Your religious beliefs aren't just set of ideas you carry in your head. They are pretty much who you are and how you interact with the world, whether you realize it or not. The values are present in you even if you don't attend mass every Sunday.
For you to change your religious beliefs, it has to be because your current system of thought no longer works for you, not because some woman bats her eyes your way. And it's not as if you're changing from being Catholic to being Episcopalian or Lutheran or even Baptist. It is a radical, 180-degree turn in faith. Unless you are truly, emotionally prepared to do that in an immersive way--which I'm guessing you are decidedly not--then don't do it. You'll wind up hating her for it.
As a matter of fact, put the shoe on the other foot. Would she be willing to convert for you? If not, that should tell you everything you need to know.
Meanwhile, on a practical side, do you really think she'd leave her husband? And are you willing to deal with the consequences if she does?
Your religious beliefs aren't just set of ideas you carry in your head. They are pretty much who you are and how you interact with the world, whether you realize it or not. The values are present in you even if you don't attend mass every Sunday.
For you to change your religious beliefs, it has to be because your current system of thought no longer works for you, not because some woman bats her eyes your way. And it's not as if you're changing from being Catholic to being Episcopalian or Lutheran or even Baptist. It is a radical, 180-degree turn in faith. Unless you are truly, emotionally prepared to do that in an immersive way--which I'm guessing you are decidedly not--then don't do it. You'll wind up hating her for it.
As a matter of fact, put the shoe on the other foot. Would she be willing to convert for you? If not, that should tell you everything you need to know.
Meanwhile, on a practical side, do you really think she'd leave her husband? And are you willing to deal with the consequences if she does?
What he said ^.
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