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My mom died 40 years ago today, when I was a teenager in high school. She was a wonderful parent and we had a fantastic relationship. I always knew she loved me to pieces. Wish I could've known her in my adult years, but I know how blessed I am to have had her in my life till I was 17.
I know that many people on here had, or have, bad relationships with their parents or siblings. My heart goes out to you. Others, however, have loving relationships with relatives. Whatever your situation, whoever is in your life right now ~ love them while you can. Don't just assume they know. Tell them. Show them.
I'm reminded of a line from an old song: "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."
On a similar note, I have two teenage girls and I remember when they were born and I realized that I'd probably make a lot of mistakes in their raising. I decided then and there that loving them a lot and showing it would probably undo some of the damage that I'd do with my mistakes, so I have been affectionate and loving to the point of being annoying, but I know both of the girls appreciate it and we all have a good relationship most of the time, even if they are teenagers. I didn't give them a lot of things, but they did get lots of love and experiences.
My beloved dad was career Army. He survived WWII & the Korean War,couldn't survive his heartattack when i was 18. He rests in peace at San Bruno military cemetary, in California.
Please, take gentle good care of yourself, darlin'.
On a similar note, I have two teenage girls and I remember when they were born and I realized that I'd probably make a lot of mistakes in their raising. I decided then and there that loving them a lot and showing it would probably undo some of the damage that I'd do with my mistakes, so I have been affectionate and loving to the point of being annoying, but I know both of the girls appreciate it and we all have a good relationship most of the time, even if they are teenagers. I didn't give them a lot of things, but they did get lots of love and experiences.
If you can keep showing the love even during their TEEN years, that's quite an accomplishment! *tee hee* Sounds like wonderful parenting to me.
My mom died 40 years ago today, when I was a teenager in high school. She was a wonderful parent and we had a fantastic relationship. I always knew she loved me to pieces. Wish I could've known her in my adult years, but I know how blessed I am to have had her in my life till I was 17.
I know that many people on here had, or have, bad relationships with their parents or siblings. My heart goes out to you. Others, however, have loving relationships with relatives. Whatever your situation, whoever is in your life right now ~ love them while you can. Don't just assume they know. Tell them. Show them.
I'm reminded of a line from an old song: "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."
I'm sorry to hear that, PJ8. I just can't imagine. I'm glad the time you had together was so loving.
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Originally Posted by stepka
On a similar note, I have two teenage girls and I remember when they were born and I realized that I'd probably make a lot of mistakes in their raising. I decided then and there that loving them a lot and showing it would probably undo some of the damage that I'd do with my mistakes, so I have been affectionate and loving to the point of being annoying, but I know both of the girls appreciate it and we all have a good relationship most of the time, even if they are teenagers. I didn't give them a lot of things, but they did get lots of love and experiences.
You know PJ8, I was just thinking about this and had this thought: you may have been feeling a bit of guilt in thinking that you hadn't shown your love to your mother as much as you should have, but I have no doubt that your mother knew how much you adored her even if you were going thru teenagery stuff. Moms have a sixth sense about things like that, and it's normal. Really, a wise mom knows that older children have to go thru a stage of pulling away and creating their own life and not only is that normal, but welcomed b/c it means you're healthy. It also makes her sad, but she knows that it's the way of the world and that if she handles it well now, then she's laying the foundation for an excellent relationship with her kids as adults and can hope to be more involved in her grandchildren's life.
In reading your post though, it makes me think that the most painful time in a person's life to lose their mother much be in the teenage years, b/c we're in that pulling away phase and that must surely leave a lot of guilt, but please know that your mother knew that.
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I always knew she loved me to pieces. Wish I could've known her in my adult years, but I know how blessed I am to have had her in my life till I was 17.
I didn't give them a lot of things, but they did get lots of love and experiences.
