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That makes me wonder whether the "art" of street pick-ups is far more alive and well in Europe than in the US, because of the stronger emphasis on street-level living. Would you say that where you were was more like an American Main Street from 1948, with stores, shops and people buzzing around, rather than the segregated and separated super-boxes that we call "shopping" now?
And if so, is there now a specific set of rules to follow for mall pick-ups?
I believe that interacting with people in the flesh every day gives one a certain fluidity with social intercourse. Interacting with them electronically blunts that ability. If you are more comfortable among people in general, you'll have an easier time being picked-up on the street.
Just a theory ...
It varies within each country in Europe. Italian men, for example, will be different from Swedish men, and so on. As a side note, you'll find that the closer to the Mediterranean you are, the more forward men will be. But yes, while I was in Europe I got approached on the street a lot more than I do here. It mostly has to do with their culture, the social norms in that country, and the way they are brought up. Men there aren't afraid to approach women- yes, some of them can be very annoying, but in general, I love that they don't have any hang ups like most men here do. They aren't afraid to put themselves out there, even when the odds are against them.
I do think your theory is correct also. The more sociable you are, the more likely you'll be to interact with strangers and be "picked up".
It varies within each country in Europe. Italian men, for example, will be different from Swedish men, and so on. As a side note, you'll find that the closer to the Mediterranean you are, the more forward men will be. But yes, while I was in Europe I got approached on the street a lot more than I do here. It mostly has to do with their culture, the social norms in that country, and the way they are brought up. Men there aren't afraid to approach women- yes, some of them can be very annoying, but in general, I love that they don't have any hang ups like most men here do. They aren't afraid to put themselves out there, even when the odds are against them.
I do think your theory is correct also. The more sociable you are, the more likely you'll be to interact with strangers and be "picked up".
Or we're just not willing to get labeled as a creep and have women screaming harassment on us all the time.
That's not a good thing to say if you actually want to have a little of that culture in men in this country.
Or we're just not willing to get labeled as a creep and have women screaming harassment on us all the time.
That's not a good thing to say if you actually want to have a little of that culture in men in this country.
Yes, even the women here are different. I agree with you in that some women ruin it for all of us when they label a guy as creepy or sexually harassing her when all he does is approach her with the intention of getting to know her. It's no wonder why some men are deathly afraid of approaching a girl. I'm not like that though. I won't call someone creepy just because I'm not attracted to him. I'll simply let him know I'm not interested. And I don't understand your second sentence lol.
Yes, even the women here are different. I agree with you in that some women ruin it for all of us when they label a guy as creepy or sexually harassing her when all he does is approach her with the intention of getting to know her. It's no wonder why some men are deathly afraid of approaching a girl. I'm not like that though. I won't call someone creepy just because I'm not attracted to him. I'll simply let him know I'm not interested. And I don't understand your second sentence lol.
Well, the thing is, is men can't read minds. They don't know how crazy some women can get if they simply approach her and open a window of conversation. We will simply not approach anyone in an open setting like the streets because we do not want that negative persona wrongfully forged onto us.
The 2nd sentence? was just a reinforcement of the first sentence. If you truly want us to approach you on the streets or somewhere else that's similarly open, you shouldn't be so quick to pull the harassment card.
Well, the thing is, is men can't read minds. They don't know how crazy some women can get if they simply approach her and open a window of conversation. We will simply not approach anyone in an open setting like the streets because we do not want that negative persona wrongfully forged onto us.
The 2nd sentence? was just a reinforcement of the first sentence. If you truly want us to approach you on the streets or somewhere else that's similarly open, you shouldn't be so quick to pull the harassment card.
I guess you'll either take the chance and risk the slight chance of being verbally attacked, or not bother at all. Your call. I'd be curious to know how many times a guy has actually been attacked for approaching a girl though, I do think some guys exaggerate.
Hmm... I live in Paris and I get asked out by random guys on the street a lot more there than I do in the US, so that's true. Never said yes to any of them though, because they've always been at least 10-15 years older than me (I'm in my early 20s) and I'm not into older men. Well, and I don't really like getting asked out solely on the basis of a guy thinking I'm hot, which is what random street pick ups are. I'd at least like to have had a conversation with the guy before he asks for my number.
OK, I met my current gf this way: Me trying to get somewhere on business, my car broke down, I take the bus to keep my appointment. She: takes the bus out of anti-big-oil convicitions (has a car though). We talked while riding to my destination, she seemed nice, so I asked for her phone number/email. We exchanged them, went out as friends for 6 months, then became bf/gf. I swear this is how I met most of my gf's in my life, never thru friends or family (worst blind dates from hell those were!) or from work.
And BTW I am no player, I have gone thru the *born-again-virgin* thing I guarantee. I never go hitting on women in bars or use any of the usual PUA "tricks". If I don't feel rapport within two sentences, I say "bye!".
Thanks,
Doctor Blues
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