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[quote=Doobage;20208111]I'd like to ask, what are your intentions when smiling at, or approaching an attractive woman? Would she be making the right assumption if she assumed you were trying to pick her up? (Even if she does enjoy/return your attention, is her assumption correct?).
Wow, I haven't been back to this thread, I'm surprised that it's grown! My thoughts when making this thread weren't so much about how "strangers are scary"...more about how some men are able to decide that they want to go on a date with a woman without anything more than her face and (maybe even) her name.[/quote]
The whole point of going on a date with someone is to get to know them, to see if they truly are a good match or not. I don't see it much different from meeting someone at a party or through a friend- they don't know anything about you but what you look like. Maybe after the first or second date they'll decide you really aren't a good match after all. But where's the hurt in trying? I love Marlow's last line, "Just keep your eyes and your mind open and live a little bit."
Yes, literally in a parking lot. I was young (19) and this was back in the 70's. I was coming out of my office after work and he was there delivering a package (wearing a uniform) I was flattered but when he came to pick me up for our date he was wearing a purple hat with a feather in it...a pimp hat literally. My mom and dad had to hold each other back from chasing after me to keep me from getting into his car. Within blocks of my house he reached under the seat he pulled out a bong. I kind of figured it wasn't going to work out at that point..and I was right. I could have been worse, I got home safely. And some girls probably would have had fun with that, but I wasn't that type and I have no idea why he would have thought I was based on how I looked.
My daughter is CONSTANTLY getting hit on in grocery stores and whatnot. She got a Google Voice number just so to give out to guys instead of giving them her cell number. She also collects quite a few. As far as I know nothing has ever come from any of these run ins though.
I'm trying to understand why some men try to pick up dates out in public and whether or not that actually works. I'm not talking about quick sexual harassment/catcalling but when a guy actually accosts you for your name and phone number or asks if they can "get to know you". Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
So ladies, have you ever actually decided to go out with a guy you "met" five seconds ago? If so, did it go well?
Men are welcome to post their thoughts but please don't vote...I'm sure you'd like to see the real numbers anyway!
Do you realize that most rapes and murders are committed by people you know?...NOT by strangers. So keep thinking you are being safe by ignoring "creepers" on the street.
I'd like to ask, what are your intentions when smiling at, or approaching an attractive woman? Would she be making the right assumption if she assumed you were trying to pick her up? (Even if she does enjoy/return your attention, is her assumption correct?).
Wow, I haven't been back to this thread, I'm surprised that it's grown! My thoughts when making this thread weren't so much about how "strangers are scary"...more about how some men are able to decide that they want to go on a date with a woman without anything more than her face and (maybe even) her name.
Personally for me, it would not be the right assumption that I was trying to pick her up. I smile at old people, say good morning to bums and street vendors. I always smile and make funny faces at little kids, but does that insinuate something, I hope not! I just enjoy the silly things in life.
Now with that being said if I was single, smiled at an attractive lady and we got to flirting, would I probably want to go out with her? Sure, I think that's a fair assumption
Be polite. Ask her out for coffee. Not for a drink. Approach her in a non-aggressive, non-macho way. Have items in your shopping cart. Check her ring finger first - to see if she's taken.
I'm trying to understand why some men try to pick up dates out in public and whether or not that actually works. I'm not talking about quick sexual harassment/catcalling but when a guy actually accosts you for your name and phone number or asks if they can "get to know you". Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
So ladies, have you ever actually decided to go out with a guy you "met" five seconds ago? If so, did it go well?
Men are welcome to post their thoughts but please don't vote...I'm sure you'd like to see the real numbers anyway!
No, to dating without knowing the person. Yes, I've had guys stop and chat.
If you're not open to met people in your every day life, then what are you doing. Are you open to dating or meeting different people, then how?
Picking up lunch
Cleaners
Walking to wherever
Only you know, if this person isn't right on first glance.
Do you realize that most rapes and murders are committed by people you know?...NOT by strangers. So keep thinking you are being safe by ignoring "creepers" on the street.
Read before typing, sweetheart. Most people got that this thread is not about "scary strangers" and rapists.
It's about whether or not you have been asked a date with someone you "met" 5 seconds ago.
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Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
