Need some help with this... (girlfriend, marry, guys, love)
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I have a question and a possible crucible. You see, I'm 21 years old, studying and working.
I currently am in a relationship of 1 1/2 years with my girlfriend and we are VERY happy together. She lives with her mother and that's the only relative she has (Her dad died years before we met) and I know she's the one I love and I want to marry (I think its the other way around too). So, thing is her MOTHER is willing to let me move in to the house (with my gf) and sleep in the same room and, according to what she and my gf have spoken, she would let us develop ourselves as a normal couple (issues, money, sex) under the condition(missing the right word) that I marry her daughter to which I have no problem at all and she would only be around to cook and, almost subliminally, take care of her as she's not getting any younger and my gf has expressed her feelings that she's worried. Her mom completely LOVES me as she asks me how I am, cooks for me, cares for me, etc etc.
I have given a LOT of thought on this, given the situation where it could be awkward...
problem is her mom is kinda old and she doesn't want to move from the house. I agreed to share the payment of the rent for apartment where they live (it's not their own)
Three can be a bit of a crowd. It would be different if you had an entire house to share, but apartment living can be cramped for size.
How about you find an apartment of your own as a couple, and move Mom into her own apartment in the same building.
Some apartments have bachelors/singles/efficiency, 1 bedrooms, 2 bedrooms etc.
Mom shouldn't need much space except for a bed, bathroom, kitchen - and you could share a common space together in the daytime but at night, mom goes back to her unit and you two have your own apartment together.
First let me tell you that you are VERY lucky to have potential mother in law who loves you.. I have had a would-be mother in law from hell and it makes things very difficult. However, you two need to get your own place.
Your GF is 21. How old can the mother be? To boot, it sounds like your GF is not very independent. She should be wanting to make a life with you. It would be weird for you to move into her mom's house. Do you seriously want her mom wondering why you guys were out late, didn't come home, etc?
So...Mother is "willing" to let you move in...........Mother will "let" you develope a normal relationship,...only "if" you marry her daughter.......Can you not see that you will be losing control of your own life if you choose this path???Do you really want to live with Mother, and require her permission and approval for the way you, and your girlfriend live your lives???
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