What makes ppl want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with? (long-term, married)
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What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 07-25-2011 at 01:06 PM..
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What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
To each their own, but happily ever after is a bill of goods that society has put on everybody, when in actuallity it is only right for a few. I believe that getting married and having a long term comitted relationship is not right for everyone. why would it be? some people just don't belong with others, just as some people were not meant to being good parents.
I don't know of anyone in a comitted relationship that is as happy as I am single. Thats the other bill of goods that society throws at us 'We have to have someone else to make u happy: "No we don't"
It's probably because they know that if they marry and have children, they're gonna have to put their family first and think about what's best for them instead of being able to travel on the fly or go out with the guys or whatever. Most people like to get their "singles wiggles" out of their system so they can say they did this or that before they married and/or had kids and they're happy they did.
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
Because it is natural to sample all the variety that life offers, why not taste all of it! How else will you know what you really want unless you do?
Eventually you will be ready to settle down, but what is the hurry?
"Sowing wild oats" is a human rite of passage found in every culture.
It's more than that...guys wanna get their kicks while they are young. Or some women do too! Pregnancy, std's, or maturity usually gets them eventually.
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
I would say without something to compare it too, it would be hard to know they are the one. If you only shop at walmart how would you know quality?
It's probably because they know that if they marry and have children, they're gonna have to put their family first and think about what's best for them instead of being able to travel on the fly or go out with the guys or whatever. Most people like to get their "singles wiggles" out of their system so they can say they did this or that before they married and/or had kids and they're happy they did.
Many thx for the helpful explanation, MoonPrincess!
It's more than that...guys wanna get their kicks while they are young. Or some women do too! Pregnancy, std's, or maturity usually gets them eventually.
You forgot guys having to fork over child support money.
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