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I fear that the guy I'm seeing right now is just not attractive to me physically. Very intelligent though. And compatible. I don't necessarily think I guy has to look perfect to be hot to me, but if the chemistry isn't there - isnt that the kiss of death? logically the relationship makes sense but unfortunately i fear i'm going to have to bail pretty soon. his face just isn't attractive to me. why is it that when you meet a nice dependable guy, there's just this one little issue?
he's so intelligent and successful though, and decent looking. not horrendous by any means... just not attractive to me. his face is every "child-like" which I'm sure will serve him well when he's 40 or 50. AHHHHH .
what is wrong with me? shouldnt it be nice to settle down and grow old with a nice dependable rich guy with a good family. conversely, i seem to enjoy falling for people who will never work out and have my heart dragged through the mud. i guess i crave the drama/excitement
I've known a few people over time who've past on the intelligent, hard working family man who would have loved them wholly,....and instead went for the flings with others that were based solely on physical attraction.....it's a lonely life.
This is all too much for me, I'm officially declaring a dating hiatus of at least 6 months. I'll just do what decent human beings these days are doing.... ignore his phonecall and act like I've dropped off the face of the planet.
Maybe I'm being mean but utlimately in life, I will not make decisions out of fear. Fear that a better person won't come along, fear of being alone, fear of whatever. I ultimately feel so happy and free right now after deciding I don't need to be giving this any attention. He's good, he's great, he'll find somebody else good for him. Me - I don't freaking know but I'm young. And I don't mind getting married at 28 or 29. I just want to enjoy my life now. Without feeling as though I'm settling or doing what I'm "supposed to do". If I'm going to settle or behave properly now, I'm sure I'll be more willing to do it at 28 or 29. Best to put it off.
Last edited by sydney1987; 07-31-2011 at 09:21 AM..
I fear that the guy I'm seeing right now is just not attractive to me physically. Very intelligent though. And compatible. I don't necessarily think I guy has to look perfect to be hot to me, but if the chemistry isn't there - isnt that the kiss of death? logically the relationship makes sense but unfortunately i fear i'm going to have to bail pretty soon. his face just isn't attractive to me. why is it that when you meet a nice dependable guy, there's just this one little issue?
he's so intelligent and successful though, and decent looking. not horrendous by any means... just not attractive to me. his face is every "child-like" which I'm sure will serve him well when he's 40 or 50. AHHHHH .
what is wrong with me? shouldnt it be nice to settle down and grow old with a nice dependable rich guy with a good family. conversely, i seem to enjoy falling for people who will never work out and have my heart dragged through the mud. i guess i crave the drama/excitement
..............you want danger, intrigue? what? Is it, he is not high? maybe he needs to know what you want? ....really smart people think about a lot of things, has he told you he wants to settle down?...........you need to get to know each other............to have a successful relationship you need to date..........for 3-5 years.....this is a comitment, a project of building a relationship, it takes work, time and thought?........if you skip one of these it can cost you a lot, and him even more...........talk to him and tell him you are trying to grow up, if he's not worth it, don't fool him or your self.
I fear that the guy I'm seeing right now is just not attractive to me physically. Very intelligent though. And compatible. I don't necessarily think I guy has to look perfect to be hot to me, but if the chemistry isn't there - isnt that the kiss of death? logically the relationship makes sense but unfortunately i fear i'm going to have to bail pretty soon. his face just isn't attractive to me. why is it that when you meet a nice dependable guy, there's just this one little issue?
he's so intelligent and successful though, and decent looking. not horrendous by any means... just not attractive to me. his face is every "child-like" which I'm sure will serve him well when he's 40 or 50. AHHHHH .
what is wrong with me? shouldnt it be nice to settle down and grow old with a nice dependable rich guy with a good family. conversely, i seem to enjoy falling for people who will never work out and have my heart dragged through the mud. i guess i crave the drama/excitement
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Originally Posted by sydney1987
This is all too much for me, I'm officially declaring a dating hiatus of at least 6 months. I'll just do what decent human beings these days are doing.... ignore his phonecall and act like I've dropped off the face of the planet.
Maybe I'm being mean but utlimately in life, I will not make decisions out of fear. Fear that a better person won't come along, fear of being alone, fear of whatever. I ultimately feel so happy and free right now after deciding I don't need to be giving this any attention. He's good, he's great, he'll find somebody else good for him. Me - I don't freaking know but I'm young. And I don't mind getting married at 28 or 29. I just want to enjoy my life now. Without feeling as though I'm settling or doing what I'm "supposed to do". If I'm going to settle or behave properly now, I'm sure I'll be more willing to do it at 28 or 29. Best to put it off.
I think I see the problem here. And I concur--not dating is really the best choice for you. I'd make your hiatus longer than 6 months, though. More like.....till you grow up.
Yeah, I know I'm being harsh, but you're dumping a guy by pulling a Houdini. That's just cowardly. He deserves someone who won't repay treating you well with treating him with contempt.
For someone who's determined not to make a decision out of fear, you're making this decision out of fear. Fear that someone better WILL come along, and you won't be able to snag him if you're tied down to this guy.
If you're going to bail on this guy because of your baggage, then he deserves being told, in person, to his face. Unless he has done something that earns contempt, he deserves to be treated with respect. You're dumping him because of your faults, not his. Your mother taught you better.
Last edited by RockJock1729; 07-31-2011 at 06:43 PM..
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