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Look around at the couples in this country. Their appearance. Their education. People of all shapes, sizes, education, income, and background are in relationships. Nobody is "too unattractive" "not educated enough" or "not well enough endowed."
So, now is the time to self improve. Get some education, gain some skills. Go out and travel, become interesting.
If your unit is small there is surgery for that now.
Girls don't care about that either.
Just be a douche to them, it's worth a shot.
Disclaimer: I'm not referring that I personally am a douche to women, I treat women probably better than I should, I'm simply advising the OP to try it.
First and foremost, having a steady GF is not all it's cracked up to be. They generally take any and all your time. You can pretty much kiss your freedom goodbye.
Now with that being said there are obvious pluses like the companionship and sex. If there is one thing I have learned in dating the last 20 yrs it's that there is someone out there for you and no matter how unlikely it seems you will find a person and have a long relationship.
When I was younger I was an odd kid. I was a red head with freckles and buck teeth. I couldn't dress and I had a poor sense of humor. Guess what... I still found girls to date all through high school. After HS I grew up a little. Still looked funny but I started to become more of a man. It wasn't until I was in my late 20's that I realized what women are looking for and I will tell you that it isn't physical appearance. You see I'm still just average looking but I have confidence and a personality. Some say I have "presents" and I'll be the first to tell you that it's all in your attitude and how you carry yourself.
Feeling sorry for yourself is a sign of an insecure man. Comparing yourself to other men is a sign of an insecure man. Look deep within yourself. Take some time to work on yourself. Get a hobby, join a gym, learn a language. Do whatever it takes to make you feel more secure with yourself. Don't worry about anyone else. Pretty soon it will be other guys comparing themselves to you... Women comparing you to their guys etc.
There is no reason for a girl to want to be in a relationship with me when there are millions of men out there that are more attractive, more educated and more well-endowed. I just dont see the point in even trying anymore.
Yeah with that attitude, I don't see the point either.
First and foremost, having a steady GF is not all it's cracked up to be. They generally take any and all your time. You can pretty much kiss your freedom goodbye.
If this is the predominant feeling in a relationship, it isn't a healthy relationship.
Any relationship should create excitement and energy to spend time with your significant other. Not feelings that it is burning away your time, that you would have wanted to use elsewhere.
Yes, being in a committed relationship relinquishes some freedom and independance. However, if it feels confining or imprisoning, then it is not a good relationship. They do not feel that way when they are right!
There is no reason for a girl to want to be in a relationship with me when there are millions of men out there that are more attractive, more educated and more well-endowed. I just dont see the point in even trying anymore.
You're probably right. Serious dating can be competitive.
There is no reason for a girl to want to be in a relationship with me when there are millions of men out there that are more attractive, more educated and more well-endowed. I just dont see the point in even trying anymore.
If you truly do feel this way, then date date.
I dated a guy with seriously low self esteem like this and no matter what, He never thought he was good enough or that he deserved me. In the end, he pretty much convinced me he was right and that I was wasting my time.
If you have nothing to offer a women, hang it up and focus on other things. Don't waste anyone's time.
If this is the predominant feeling in a relationship, it isn't a healthy relationship.
Any relationship should create excitement and energy to spend time with your significant other. Not feelings that it is burning away your time, that you would have wanted to use elsewhere.
Yes, being in a committed relationship relinquishes some freedom and independence. However, if it feels confining or imprisoning, then it is not a good relationship. They do not feel that way when they are right!
I agree with every word you said. When i replied I had a feeling the OP was a younger guy. Maybe in his early to mid 20's. Having gone through that stage already I'm familiar with the types of relationships. They are typically confining as neither person is confident and they tend to suffocate the other person.
My opinion is little emphasis should be placed on relationships of young people. Until you're in your 30's there are much more important things to worry about..
OP.. If i'm wrong and you are not a young man please forgive my assumption.
There is no reason for a girl to want to be in a relationship with me when there are millions of men out there that are more attractive, more educated and more well-endowed. I just dont see the point in even trying anymore.
First off, stop feeling sorry for yourself. This alone is a complete turn-off. Secondly, you should stop placing so much value on being in a relationship. Instead, your primary goal should be making friends, and if anything more comes of that, great. Those who go into every interaction with the expectation of a relationship usually find themselves very disappointed and completely miss the benefits of friendships.
Lastly, aside from feeling sorry for yourself, you need to get over yourself. Assuming you masquerade your self pity as humility amongst the women, you probably feel entitled to something. Rid yourself of these nasty attributes and you will be a much stronger prospect to the opposite sex.
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