The Non-Workin-No-Children Stay Home Spouse! (wives, marriages, women, hubby)
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Here is something that just blows my mind: Non-retired-stay-home spouses with no jobs, not going to school and no children. What do these people do? Many of my Co worker's wives fall in this category and most are verbal about how they in many ways resent them for not doing anything but spending their hard earned money.
I think this is wrong in many levels. It creates an unbalanced relationship that is open for many conflicts. The mismatch of energy levels, possibility of costly divorce for the working spouse, and the fact of knowing that the person is just not doing much with his/her life should be of gray concern for people in this situation.
If you are in this situation, how do you handle it?
If you are not, what do you think about the stay home spouce?
I think that how couples structure their marriages is non of your or anyone else's business.
If one of the partners has a problem with the set up, THEN it's a problem. Otherwise - who cares! As long as everyone feels fulfilled then that's what matters.
I wonder how many of these whinging men had wives with successful careers who agreed to move and give up their jobs for their husband's benefit?
I have no real problem with it, if, the woman is self sufficent, and that generally does not happen in that type of relationship. The man is the controller, and, the woman is not in control of anything.
Really doesn't matter until the hubby decides to leave her for another woman or...dies. Then we have women who have no clue as to how manage their lives or take care of themselves.
This mentally level goes back to the bible and the stone age, the man slayed the dragons and provided for the woman.
Now, we must consider the woman who is either physically or mentally unable to work, puts a whole new spin on things.
The bottom line to me, is, I don't care as long as it does not affect me.
Why is this your business? Do you actually devote thought to it? What about a spouse who devotes a lot of time to charities? Or her hobbies? Or the woman I know who wrote three different novels in five years, finally getting one published. She kept her house spotless, cooked dinner, and was a good partner in the marriage.
I think that how couples structure their marriages is non of your or anyone else's business.
If one of the partners has a problem with the set up, THEN it's a problem. Otherwise - who cares! As long as everyone feels fulfilled then that's what matters.
I wonder how many of these whinging men had wives with successful careers who agreed to move and give up their jobs for their husband's benefit?
........and let's add in there may not be enough income to go to school.
Man, where do I sign up? I get to do what I want, not have a bunch of kids to tend to AND sleep in every day? Perfect!
Of course, I wouldn't do nothing. I'd probably go to school or I'd be volunteering somewhere or I'd be pursuing something I'm passionate about or working on a hobby...
Doing nothing sounds great for about...oh, maybe a few months, (seriously, I'm exhausted, tired, fatigued!!!), but after that, what is there to do but watch mindless television or play FarmVille all day long.
I can't imagine going through life not doing anything but I sure have daydreamed about not having to work!
Man, where do I sign up? I get to do what I want, not have a bunch of kids to tend to AND sleep in every day? Perfect!
Of course, I wouldn't do nothing. I'd probably go to school or I'd be volunteering somewhere or I'd be pursuing something I'm passionate about or working on a hobby...
Doing nothing sounds great for about...oh, maybe a few months, (seriously, I'm exhausted, tired, fatigued!!!), but after that, what is there to do but watch mindless television or play FarmVille all day long.
I can't imagine going through life not doing anything but I sure have daydreamed about not having to work!
Agreed TW, I was unemployed for a year and would occupy myself around the house with projects and stuff. I felt too guilty to pursue any hobbies thinking it would upset the wife if it appeared I was having 'fun' being unemployed.
I think that how couples structure their marriages is non of your or anyone else's business.
If one of the partners has a problem with the set up, THEN it's a problem. Otherwise - who cares! As long as everyone feels fulfilled then that's what matters.
I wonder how many of these whinging men had wives with successful careers who agreed to move and give up their jobs for their husband's benefit?
I couldn't do that. I'd feel lazy. I'd rather be working.
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