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It seems to be a common belief that the older a person is (especially if they're 40+) the more "baggage" they're carrying. If you take a look at whatever your current viewpoints are on relationships/marriage/dating/etc., what previous negative experiences have contributed to your outlook?
I'm bitter and jaded from a ****ty failed marriage. It was a mistake anyway, I just wish I was smart enough to not let it happen. I lost my savings and am in debt, having to start from scratch now.
I also do not currently believe in monogamy because I feel young people shouldn't trap themselves with one person for the rest of their lives. It seems restrictive. A lot of people aren't like that, and I may change down the road, but for now, it's not a good idea to me.
It seems to be a common belief that the older a person is (especially if they're 40+) the more "baggage" they're carrying. If you take a look at whatever your current viewpoints are on relationships/marriage/dating/etc., what previous negative experiences have contributed to your outlook?
I am 44 and no baggage here. I have no debt, no kids, no big problems, no health issues(knock on wood) and no hang ups. Anything that was too much drama or added any negativity in my life I changed or got rid of. Life is all about our chocies and I'm happy with mine so don't rain on my parade
I am more stubborn though and I don't deal with anyone else's BS or drama anymore. Life is too short for other people's crap, lol.
I am 44 and no baggage here. I have no debt, no kids, no big problems, no health issues(knock on wood) and no hang ups. Anything that was too much drama or added any negativity in my life I changed or got rid of. Life is all about our chocies and I'm happy with mine so don't rain on my parade
I am more stubborn though and I don't deal with anyone else's BS or drama anymore. Life is too short for other people's crap, lol.
Seriously......that's great. A lot of people can't do this, and let others bring them down because they're afraid to let go of bad influences.
Some people's negativity/issues come from when they were kids, and couldn't really make the decision to remove themselves from adverse situations. It's easy enough to say, "Well, I don't have any emotional fallout in my life, because any drama or negativity in my life, I just cut out before it could cause any lasting damage." In practice, though, it's hard to take that stand when you're, for instance, a child who's being abused, etc.
It seems to be a common belief that the older a person is (especially if they're 40+) the more "baggage" they're carrying. If you take a look at whatever your current viewpoints are on relationships/marriage/dating/etc., what previous negative experiences have contributed to your outlook?
I'd rather dispel the "belief" than contribute fuel to the fire. If people actually work through and resolve the negative things that have happened to them in life, they end up wiser, more empathetic and baggage free. Everyone has negative things happen to them. It is how one deals and processes them that makes the difference between a bitter baggage-laden person (of ANY age) and someone who has taken life's lemons and made lemonade.
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