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"The truth is probably simpler than that and best summed up by the “New York taxi driver” theory. According to this idea, men — like New York taxi drivers — cruise around all day, picking up fares. They carry some for a long time, some for just a short while, without giving it all that much thought. But at a certain point, when they’re tired, maybe bored and have had their fill, the taxi driver decides it’s time to turn off his light and go home. Whoever is in the back of his metaphorical relationship taxi at that point is the one he marries."
Overall, most people (not just men) commit when they find a compatible person at the right time (and, of course, if the person feels the same and it's also the right time for him/her). Both those things need to be present, though. You can meet a compatible person at the wrong time, and that can derail things. You can also be at the right time of life, but not be meeting anybody who's the right type of person.
Overall, most people (not just men) commit when they find a compatible person at the right time (and, of course, if the person feels the same and it's also the right time for him/her). Both those things need to be present, though. You can meet a compatible person at the wrong time, and that can derail things. You can also be at the right time of life, but not be meeting anybody who's the right type of person.
I agree with this.
Of course we can only speak in broad generalities, but I do think that for men it is more often a case of feeling ready to settle down then finding a woman who meets whatever criteria he's looking for.
Totally random for the majority of the population. Example: Dated 10 Players and frogs in a row between the ages of 18 and 23. Found a nice good looking guy at 24, must be the one since he shines next to the previous 10.
Most people end up in a LTR based on luck, Kismet, random chance, then declare them as "The One". When someone puts forth a plan and a goal in finding the "Right one" they are often declared "Mechanical" as if finding someone who is "The One" has to be found through random chance.
Is it about finding the one or simply being the woman who is at the right place at the right time
Ditto. It takes a lot for a man, or anyone for that matter to commit. For me, I have to be 100% certain that the woman I'm with is who I want to be with. Otherwise, I will keep it moving because it's not fair to me or her.
I think it's about finding the right woman (someone you really think is compatible) at the right time (when you're capable of commiting). Of course, some people will take the first available when they are feeling desperate, or make bad choices whether the time is right or not. Most people will at least try to make a good decision.
"The truth is probably simpler than that and best summed up by the “New York taxi driver” theory. According to this idea, men — like New York taxi drivers — cruise around all day, picking up fares. They carry some for a long time, some for just a short while, without giving it all that much thought. But at a certain point, when they’re tired, maybe bored and have had their fill, the taxi driver decides it’s time to turn off his light and go home. Whoever is in the back of his metaphorical relationship taxi at that point is the one he marries."
Do you think this is true? Is it about finding the one or simply being the woman who is at the right place at the right time?
Finding the right woman for sure. It could even be said for the female as well. I've cheated on a good amount of boyfriends but have found someone I couldn't even imagine doing that to.
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