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No, just 20 years older means the guy is pretty damn old, and wrinkly, and probably has gray hair, dresses out of the current style, and has a script for viagra.
Do you actually believe that most 45 year old guys are wrinkly, have gray hair, dress out of style, and have a script for Viagra, or are you just throwing this out there because a few 45 year old guys may fit this description?
I am a bit older than 45, and I do not have any of the issues you are referring to (a few crows feet around the eyes, but that's it), nor do any of my friends, so I am just wondering where this is coming from?
I admit that I am no longer having sex twice a day everyday anymore, but it's mainly due to other things that need my attention. So yeah, I'm down to 10-12 times a week. Perhaps there are some younger women that would complain about this, but my 27 year old gf is not exactly complaining.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
Always exceptions
There is nothing exceptional about a 45 year old guy not needing Viagra.LOL
Perhaps you are unaware of it, but for a 45 year old guy to need Viagra he would have to be suffering from some unusual disease. There are plenty of 65 year old guys who do not need Viagra.
Do you actually believe that most 45 year old guys are wrinkly, have gray hair, dress out of style, and have a script for Viagra, or are you just throwing this out there because a few 45 year old guys may fit this description?
As much as some posters believe and have stated that all women 40 and above are fat, wrinkly, and saggy.
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I am a bit older than 45, and I do not have any of the issues you are referring to (a few crows feet around the eyes, but that's it), nor do any of my friends, so I am just wondering where this is coming from?
There is nothing exceptional about a 45 year old guy not needing Viagra.LOL
Perhaps you are unaware of it, but for a 45 year old guy to need Viagra he would have to be suffering from some unusual disease. There are plenty of 65 year old guys who do not need Viagra
Im a bit older than 45 also so I know a lot of 45+ men and at the very least 50% of them use viagra. And no they dont suffer from an unusual disease. Its called aging and decreased testosterone. Some of them are messing around with younger women and are having difficulty keeping "up". So you are quite exceptional for an over 45 man. 10-12 times a week, Kudos.
Reading some of the more active threads recently, I would like to get the perspective of females under 25. How many of you are interested in dating men 40+? Many men seem to want your age demographic, do you want theirs? Why or why not?
There are a lot of people (men) who apparently can't read. Even in a thread that is SPECIFIC in whose opinion is being solicited, they jump in to trumpet their cause (which invariably is old guy with money + young women = pure bliss for both of them).
I can answer the OP's question as I actually fall into the category!
I am 24. No I am not interested in dating men in their 40's. ( ) Why not? It's creepy!! My dad is 45. I love my dad. But I don't need another one. And I certainly don't want to be intimate with someone with that huge of an age gap. Even 10 years older is way too much of a stretch for me.
Physically, men that age don't appeal to me on a sexual level/relationship wise. Friends, perhaps, if we have anything in common - but not a romantic relationship.
I have never met a man of that age with whom I had anything in common. Not music, not life experience, not culturally. I was visiting my parents last week and they were talking about "Peter Frampton". I was like "Who???" It's a whole other generation! And even if we had something in common, I can't see myself being sexually attracted to someone that old.
The older one gets, the more baggage one has. Both men or women, period. From past discussions on the subject (when an old guy hit on one of my friends at the market this summer) I can say that none of my friends are interested either. I do have one friend who dated an older guy for a couple of months (he was 31), and even he was out of place at our parties. So someone in their 40's? How weird would that be!!
I am not saying it doesn't work in some situations, and some people fall into a relationship with an older person - but I can tell you one thing for sure, the men that deliberately seek out younger women are seen by my generation as having, shall we say, "issues".
Do you actually believe that most 45 year old guys are wrinkly, have gray hair, dress out of style, and have a script for Viagra, or are you just throwing this out there because a few 45 year old guys may fit this description?
I am a bit older than 45, and I do not have any of the issues you are referring to (a few crows feet around the eyes, but that's it), nor do any of my friends, so I am just wondering where this is coming from?
I admit that I am no longer having sex twice a day everyday anymore, but it's mainly due to other things that need my attention. So yeah, I'm down to 10-12 times a week. Perhaps there are some younger women that would complain about this, but my 27 year old gf is not exactly complaining.
There is nothing exceptional about a 45 year old guy not needing Viagra.LOL
Perhaps you are unaware of it, but for a 45 year old guy to need Viagra he would have to be suffering from some unusual disease. There are plenty of 65 year old guys who do not need Viagra.
You're kidding right? We do have eyeballs. There are a few (A VERY FEW) exceptions, but to women my age, most guys in their 40's remind us of dear old dad. Not that there is anything wrong with you. You're just getting old, so of course your skin and hair and everything is failing. It is what happens to everyone. One day it will happen to all of us, if we are lucky enough to live! I intend to grow old gracefully though. Not try to hook up with a 25 year old to try and regain my youth. That's just pathetic. Embrace your advancing age Quickstudy!
. There are a few (A VERY FEW) exceptions, but to women my age, most guys in their 40's remind us of dear old dad.!
Oh, my gosh. Sorry to jump in here, but I totally have this issue. I worry what I'm going to feel about my husband as he starts to really look older. Right now he still looks pretty young.
I had never thought about this until I was actually in my 40s, and with a 40-year-old guy (my husband...he's four years younger than I am). It's not something shallow. I have a horrible history with my stepfather. I do really worry about this at times.
It may be harsh but for me, it's true and something I'm actively trying to work toward getting over. I'll bet it's the same for many other women, and for men about women too...they don't want to be doing Mom. That's oversimplification but wouldn't it make sense?
Anyway, that may be a topic for another thread but I just wanted to say: as much as it hurts, I can see this factor (the SO looking like Mom/Dad did at the age we ourselves were starting to date) as being something that gets in the way.
Its called aging and decreased testosterone. Some of them are messing around with younger women and are having difficulty keeping "up". So you are quite exceptional for an over 45 man. 10-12 times a week, Kudos.
Do heavy squats. Testosterone levels increased to regular levels in a month...
There are a lot of people (men) who apparently can't read. Even in a thread that is SPECIFIC in whose opinion is being solicited, they jump in to trumpet their cause (which invariably is old guy with money + young women = pure bliss for both of them).
As far as I am aware C-D is equal opportunity. Let any thread-starter call for only the opinions of men, and it seems like even more women jump in to express their opinion.
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Originally Posted by The Brain
The older one gets, the more baggage one has. Both men or women, period.
Not necessarily true. I've met plenty of twenty year olds and have seen news stories on plenty of teenagers who have far far more "baggage" than I'll ever have. LOL
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Originally Posted by The Brain
From past discussions on the subject (when an old guy hit on one of my friends at the market this summer) I can say that none of my friends are interested either. I do have one friend who dated an older guy for a couple of months (he was 31), and even he was out of place at our parties. So someone in their 40's? How weird would that be!!
Well, for someone who is a mature 20 year old, looking for a relationship with a mature non-player guy, it would not be weird, but for you and your friends, such a relationship may seem "weird", I gather. Fine. When I was in my 20's, I was never into the bar scene, one-night stands, experimenting with drugs, driving recklessly, making small talk, yelling at the TV when some guy making $8 million a year drops a pass, etc. In my 20's, I enjoyed pretty much the same things I enjoy now...... sailboat racing, activism, meaningful conversations, ballroom dancing, meaningful sexual relations, putting business plans into action, etc.
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Originally Posted by The Brain
.....but I can tell you one thing for sure, the men that deliberately seek out younger women are seen by my generation as having, shall we say, "issues".
Well, I guess I hate to break it to you, but not everybody in your generation feels the same as you and your friends do. And just because a younger woman in your generation prefers the company of older guys does not necessarily mean she has "issues" or is freak of nature either, but if that's how you want to think, go for it.
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And just because a younger woman in your generation prefers the company of older guys does not necessarily mean she has "issues" or is freak of nature either, but if that's how you want to think, go for it.
Don't put words in her mouth - she didn't say that - you did.
Do you actually believe that most 45 year old guys are wrinkly, have gray hair, dress out of style, and have a script for Viagra, or are you just throwing this out there because a few 45 year old guys may fit this description?
I am a bit older than 45, and I do not have any of the issues you are referring to (a few crows feet around the eyes, but that's it), nor do any of my friends, so I am just wondering where this is coming from?
I admit that I am no longer having sex twice a day everyday anymore, but it's mainly due to other things that need my attention. So yeah, I'm down to 10-12 times a week. Perhaps there are some younger women that would complain about this, but my 27 year old gf is not exactly complaining.
There is nothing exceptional about a 45 year old guy not needing Viagra.LOL
Perhaps you are unaware of it, but for a 45 year old guy to need Viagra he would have to be suffering from some unusual disease. There are plenty of 65 year old guys who do not need Viagra.
It's the 40+, wasn't sure how much +++++ was the limit. Heck, my SO is 45 and doesn't meet any of the negatives I listed. But, from my memories of online dating, there sure WERE a lot that were as I described.
Don't put words in her mouth - she didn't say that - you did.
I believe what I said was: "And just because a younger woman in your generation prefers the company of older guys does not necessarily mean she has "issues" or is freak of nature either, but if that's how you want to think, go for it."
I did not say TheBrain was actually thinking that, although from the generalization in her statement: "men that deliberately seek out younger women are seen by my generation as having, shall we say, "issues", it is reasonable to surmise that she would feel that younger women in her generation who did go out with older guys would likewise be exceptions and perhaps have their own "issues".
I do find it rather interesting that someone would stop and correct me for my questionable post, but made no mention of the fact that TheBrain launched a personal attack on men with her remark that: "There are a lot of people (men) who apparently can't read.", which is clearly a TOS violation, and yet there is no mention of that.
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) Why not? It's creepy!! My dad is 45. I love my dad. But I don't need another one. And I certainly don't want to be intimate with someone with that huge of an age gap. Even 10 years older is way too much of a stretch for me.
Embrace your advancing age Quickstudy!
Heck, my SO is 45 and doesn't meet any of the negatives I listed. 
But, from my memories of online dating, there sure WERE a lot that were as I described.
