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It's the 40+, wasn't sure how much +++++ was the limit. Heck, my SO is 45 and doesn't meet any of the negatives I listed. But, from my memories of online dating, there sure WERE a lot that were as I described.
Those were the 55-year-olds who claimed to be 45. All the true 45-year-olds were claiming they were 40.
they were talking about "Peter Frampton". I was like "Who???" It's a whole other generation! And even if we had something in common, I can't see myself being sexually attracted to someone that old.
I am in my 40's and know about Frampton, I even can play a tune of is, I feel soooooooo old now
Actually, I know or have known a few people in their 20's who know a lot about bands or songs made through time. Guy I work with is 22, I randomly sing a segment of a song at times to cut through the boredom at work be it Queen , Aerosmith, Jimi Hendrix , Van Halen oe even something more modern like Avenged Sevenfold or Weezer and I am amazed how he knows all the bands.
I in my 40's feel lucky to be at a perfect age where I appreciate the older rock but young enough (I feel young, usually) to get into many new bands, rock and metal anyway. A Woman your age, which I casually dated for a little while months ago was like the guy at my work, knowing and likeing a lot of different bands and music, I guess that was a common interest.
But you are right in the long term view of it, while there are exceptions a 20 year gap often leads to conflicts and is usually left to being a fling.
Then again I don't care about age in attraction, she can be in her 20's or 50's and what she has that I like is what is going to attract me, physically that is.The mental part, the tougher part, makes or breaks it after.
As far as style, or being out of style in dressing or whatever. I have always marched to the beat of my own drum anyway, when I was in my early twenties or now. I remember even in my twenties people sometimes saying ( don't you know long hair is out of style now, it isn't the 60's anymore). I didn't care what they thought then, I don't care now. Besides, I can go to a bar tonight and there is a good chance some woman is going to touch or comment on my hair so why would I listen to those other people telling me to shave my head... Then again, some women of any age are put off by my look.
Although I admit, in the last few years I must dose it with hair for men. It's time gain actually cause a grey streak at the top where the roots are is coming out.
I'm 23 and I have encountered men between 30 and 40 who I have considered really attractive. I could see myself having a "casual encounter" with one of them just to experiment, but I don't think I would ever date a 40+ year old.
I do find it rather interesting that someone would stop and correct me for my questionable post, but made no mention of the fact that TheBrain launched a personal attack on men with her remark that: "There are a lot of people (men) who apparently can't read.", which is clearly a TOS violation, and yet there is no mention of that.
I was responding as a participant, not as a mod, to your post, which is what I am still doing. Obviously if you feel she was "attacking men" you should report the post.
And I will reiterate that she said nothing about women having issues - so you mustn't "surmise" - in fact, if anything, she allowed for the possibility of successful romances with age gaps by saying: "I am not saying it doesn't work in some situations, and some people fall into a relationship with an older person
Is what you took issue with her belief that "men that deliberately seek out younger women are seen by my generation as having, shall we say, "issues"." Because if so, I don't think that is restricted to her generation.
To comment on supposedly needing viagra in the 40's. I guess some guys might need it, who knows. I don't know about other men. I saw a pic of that guy who went on a shooting spree at the beauty salon in California and it stated he was 42 or 43 but looked like in his 60's to me , he was a mess. Then again some men just age better or take care of themselves better.
Speaking for myself , my tool functions fine, by myself or with someone. But,two years ago when had I met someone, things started making me question her in my head, but we still eventually went to bed. Well, my tool was ready to go at first, but it went back into hibernation. Why? Because despite I wanting the moment, things about her held me back mentally. Why do I know this? Because two days later out of sheer hornyness I was doing myself in bliss. And after that, my next girlfriend, I never had that problem.
So sorry to say to a woman who thinks that is a common problem for men in there 40's, it might be her not him because she isn't doing it for him for whatever reason.
Is what you took issue with her belief that "men that deliberately seek out younger women are seen by my generation as having, shall we say, "issues"." Because if so, I don't think that is restricted to her generation.
Fair enough. And in response to that:
a) I think it is ridiculous for women in her generation, or any generation, to think that "men" (all men) who deliberately seek out younger (attractive, healthy, fertile) women have "issues" (which I am interpreting to mean mental health "issues").
b) I think it would be far more abnormal for a guy to actually want to pursue older (unattractive, unhealthy, infertile) women. Now that's abnormal, in my opinion, even from an evolutionary standpoint.
I'm 23 and I have encountered men between 30 and 40 who I have considered really attractive. I could see myself having a "casual encounter" with one of them just to experiment, but I don't think I would ever date a 40+ year old.
How about a Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp or some other famous guy in their 40s that doesn't look that old?
a) I think it is ridiculous for women in her generation, or any generation, to think that "men" (all men) who deliberately seek out younger (attractive, healthy, fertile) women have "issues" (which I am interpreting to mean mental health "issues").
b) I think it would be far more abnormal for a guy to actually want to pursue older (unattractive, unhealthy, infertile) women. Now that's abnormal, in my opinion, even from an evolutionary standpoint.
Sorry you don't like reality. But first of all you said "all" not me. But yes, people DO think that men who deliberately seek out younger womeninstead of looking for someone with a compatible personality and some redeeming qualities besides youth have issues. But you look at age first don't you? Well don't bother. Even at my age I know that youth will disappear like it does for every human being. But you, are what? 45? And yet you say something so ridiculous like "older women" are "unattractive, unhealthy and infertile"? And you are "making six figures" are you? And yet you spend your days on the Internet? Don't tell me Batman - I know, your butler is running the business right?
Yeah. I bet the girls are just lining up for you Quickstudy. My guess is that you are an ugly obese dribbling has-been who can't face reality and who thinks that having someone my age on your arm will somehow make you look anything but asinine.
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Heck, my SO is 45 and doesn't meet any of the negatives I listed. 
But, from my memories of online dating, there sure WERE a lot that were as I described.
Then again, some women of any age are put off by my look.
Because if so, I don't think that is restricted to her generation. 
