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Old 11-04-2011, 12:29 PM
 
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?

How come men always are expected to be strong and silent and never vent?
Usually if I have a major problem, the source of the problem is the girl I'm dating. So, I can't go to her anyway.

I can goto mommy and sis...
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Old 11-04-2011, 12:44 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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What's the basis for these sweeping generalizations?
It is a generalization the poster makes, but it isn't completely without merit. Think of all of the advocacy that is done on behalf of women, whether it's health care targeted to their needs such as breast cancer awareness or getting girls involved in math and science, or helping women who have to "juggle it all" or so many other support systems and awareness campaigns that women have in place that have been aren't really emphasized for men.

Please don't misunderstand. I think these can be wonderful programs, but we rarely see a companion version that reaches out for men. We don't hear about men's health issues or prostate cancer (as one example) to anywhere the degree that women's health is emphasized (and men have a lifespan unacceptably FIVE TO TEN YEARS lower than women) , in many cases men have lower education rates than women and tend to fall behind the cracks MORE, and rarely have the social support systems women have when they have to "juggle it all". This barely scratches the surface of the discrepancy between the support systems available for women that are lacking for men.
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Old 11-04-2011, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Gone
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I listen as long as it goes both ways. And as long as he is open to female perspective to his problems .
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Old 11-04-2011, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?
I am female and almost never listen to other women's problems. My friends are all male, always have been. Women's problems are predictable and pretty boring. Men are almost always more interesting and vaired.
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Old 11-04-2011, 01:37 PM
 
Location: Not Nowhere
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1) Men don't have problems. We have **** we have to deal with.

2) Women don't want to hear about the **** we have to deal with until they are comfortable in the relationship and want us to open up to them.

3) When we don't open up to them, they tend to get upset and that just becomes more **** that we have to deal with.
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Old 11-04-2011, 01:57 PM
 
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?

How come men always are expected to be strong and silent and never vent?
You are just with the wrong women. I have plenty of male friends that tell me about their dating or marriage drama. They actually feel better talking to me than their male buddies.
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Old 11-04-2011, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Woodinville
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?
"How come" most men can only relate to women using blanket statements?

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How come men always are expected to be strong and silent and never vent?
"How come" so many men are complete slaves to their gender's portrayal in women's magazines?

"How come" there are so many threads that take a personal misconception and apply it as a generalization to an entire gender, effectively reducing 3.5 billion individuals to one category?
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Old 11-04-2011, 02:17 PM
 
Location: NC
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I am female and almost never listen to other women's problems. My friends are all male, always have been. Women's problems are predictable and pretty boring. Men are almost always more interesting and vaired.
You apparently have issues with other women. Then again I have a buddy that has only female friends except for me. He relates better with them.
Women like to vent to other women and they are better listeners.
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Old 11-04-2011, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?

How come men always are expected to be strong and silent and never vent?
LOL, is this post for real?

Where do you meet girls at? Do you ever leave the block that you live on BlackJack?
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Old 11-04-2011, 02:22 PM
 
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How come women will listen to other women's problems but don't want to listen to guys' problems and then expect men to listen to their problems?

How come men always are expected to be strong and silent and never vent?
They do?...They don't?...They do??.....They are???That's all news to me!..I doubt women expect men to be always strong and silent, and never vent....though that could be a mans perception of what women think.
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