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Didn't we have something like that happen a few years back, someone was posting and then the spouse came on board about a year later and found the thread (or I guess it could have all been made up). Where's the vets on here, anyone remember?
I think I recall that the husband is now 1st soprano in the Vienna Boys Eunuch Choir!
A her side/his side forum, one where one person posts a complaint or a problem, and then we get to hear the other person's side of the story. I mean, it seems like some of these posts are so outrageous or contain so many buried truths that I'd love to hear what the other person has to say about matters. I'm guessing that it wouldn't be all that one sided. As it stands, here is how it seems to go on posts:
1) OP posts problem.
2) Other posters sympathize at first.
3) However, if sympathy is not forthcoming, then OP ladles on more sad details.
4) Other posters then offer more sympathy and advice.
5) OP, not liking advice, then trickles out even more details that will, hopefully, generate the desired result--namely the advice the OP was hoping for in the first place.
6) Other posters then start posting dissenting opinions, then arguing with each other, deconstructing the OP almost in talmudic detail.
7) Another poster says something funny, and the thread devolves into arguing and bickering.
Instead, if there was The Other Side Of The Story, I bet it would be a lot more fun.
In this setting, I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt. I read a post, and I reply in accordance with the information given.
You're only hurting yourself if you choose to ignore vital information that could make or break the story, simply because you desperately seek validation for lackluster behaviour.
In addition, it's rude to accuse a poster of lying based on one's gut instinct, without actual evidence suggesting otherwise. Forum etiquette 101.
In this setting, I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt. I read a post, and I reply in accordance with the information given.
You're only hurting yourself if you choose to ignore vital information that could make or break the story, simply because you desperately seek validation for lackluster behaviour.
In addition, it's rude to accuse a poster of lying based on one's gut instinct, without actual evidence suggesting otherwise. Forum etiquette 101.
Agree. Very good points. The OP could certainly benefit from your last point.
A her side/his side forum, one where one person posts a complaint or a problem, and then we get to hear the other person's side of the story. I mean, it seems like some of these posts are so outrageous or contain so many buried truths that I'd love to hear what the other person has to say about matters. I'm guessing that it wouldn't be all that one sided. As it stands, here is how it seems to go on posts:
1) OP posts problem.
2) Other posters sympathize at first.
3) However, if sympathy is not forthcoming, then OP ladles on more sad details.
4) Other posters then offer more sympathy and advice.
5) OP, not liking advice, then trickles out even more details that will, hopefully, generate the desired result--namely the advice the OP was hoping for in the first place.
6) Other posters then start posting dissenting opinions, then arguing with each other, deconstructing the OP almost in talmudic detail.
7) Another poster says something funny, and the thread devolves into arguing and bickering.
Instead, if there was The Other Side Of The Story, I bet it would be a lot more fun.
Your above list is pretty accurate as far as depicting the shifts and twists a thread often times undergoes, but you left out one last, very important, but albeit maddening occurence:
8) Closed for Mod review. This can happen not only because the thread has indeed strayed hopelessly from its original intent, but also if the Mods (who are many times unemployed, therefore hungry-to-exert-power, egomaniacs) merely happen to disagree with the opinions being voiced.
Anyone want to bet me a dollar that I get slapped with an infraction for this?
Your above list is pretty accurate as far as depicting the shifts and twists a thread often times undergoes, but you left out one last, very important, but albeit maddening occurence:
8) Closed for Mod review. This can happen not only because the thread has indeed strayed hopelessly from its original intent, but also if the Mods (who are many times unemployed, therefore hungry-to-exert-power, egomaniacs) merely happen to disagree with the opinions being voiced.
Anyone want to bet me a dollar that I get slapped with an infraction for this?
lol. Wait we are not to talk about them or their actions.
I have thought the same. Its often the same old story with the relationship issue. With the OPer doing everything perfectly and the other party all at fault lol.
Yep. There have been a couple of people recently with such crazy stories that they were entirely innocent victims of that I've thought that I'd love to hear their ex's take on the situation.
I may be wrong but didn't that happen a couple years back with a poster named drjones (something like that) who loved to bikeride with a woman and they would fix their bikes together and all of that then the wife came on with her story?
I think it made for a really uncomfortable thread.
It seems like some of the OP's here, may have multiple personalities.
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The OP could certainly benefit from your last point.
