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Regardless of when I make the date, I'm still wondering a) why she is being cold b) when I can text her again without appearing clingy
I don't think not texting back immediately makes her cold. Try giving her a brief phone call at the end of the day. Have a topic or two in mind to prevent those awckward silences, just want to say hello kind of call and maybe touch base on meeting again on the weekend. You guys already went out so I don't see why be intimidated by a phone call if that is your case.
You see, if you both play by "the rules" then it basically gets to a standoff.
Nobody will contact the other because they're scared of coming across as being desperate, or clingy, and it becomes a battle of wills.
Have you been in touch with her since she couldn't meet you ?
I guess it depends on how miuch you like her.
Would it hurt to send a message " Hey, how ya been, sorry, been busy. So, about this date then ?" Or even to give her a call so you can listen to her voice, it's easier to discern intent when you can hear them sometimes.
If you get a positive answer, then you're good to go.
If it goes the other way, then you also have your answer.
Better to have tried ad died, than never to have tried at all.
Although unlikely, there could have been some tragic event which has tied her up, and since you've only met twice, she didn't think it important enough to inform you. It would be no personal reflection, just a reflection of your status with each other at the moment.
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I apprecaite this, thank you.
We were texting almost every day until now, which is why I found it strange.
No such thing as a cold woman - just a woman that needs warming - don't give up - call her up and kiss her gently - get down to buisness - maybe you were to nice and too polite.
You should receive an answer along the lines of "wtf" ?
Then you reply "just something to break the ice".
Classic, gets them everytime, never fails.
If she responds, if rapport begins, just ask "mind if I give you a quick call?" Tell her your battery is low, or you ran out of free messages or something.
Phone is second only to face to face when it comes to communication.
You may get a better idea of her feelings. If she's shifty, or evasive, then back off. If she's open and chatty, then make revolutions for full speed, Cap'n.
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She pokes fun at me for not being able to parallel park, so I was thinking about texting her about how I tried doing so today..
Why don't you just call her tonight and set up a date for this weekend?
Or better yet, why don't you ignore all game playing altogether and just straight out ask her where she's at.
Something like this. I know we haven't had a lot of dates but I am having some small feelings for you and starting to think about you alot and not to put you on the spot, but I was wondering if these feelings were mutual?..Keep it simple and direct and don't have any expectations of what she may or may not say. Put simply, hope for the best, but expect the worst. Basically, leave it completey open to the fact that you have no idea how she will respond. You might even tell her that your not talking super serious here and that your intentions are not to scare her off and if she is comftorable with the pace so far.
Be honest. Trust me in a world where everyone wants to be the "one in control" and games seem to be the norm. She might actually respect your honesty and your willingness to slow it down and work with her...Just be honest but not to the point of scaring the sh t out of her..Like I love you, your the one, blah, blah, blah..Way to soon for that. Just say that you are starting to think about her and ask her if she is doing the same..From that alone, you will get your answers. And forget this texting thing. Forget this trying to analyze everything said or not said. Just be direct. Maybe even make up a little lie. Tell her you haven't dated in a while. You like her and that the last thing you would want to do is scare her off, because you like her and its been a while. Ask her what pace would be more comfortable for her. This way, if she is very busy and feeling overwhelmed by the pace that everything is going, she might feel relieved that you are willing to slow things down..
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