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Or better yet, why don't you ignore all game playing altogether and just straight out ask her where she's at.
Something like this. I know we haven't had a lot of dates but I am having some feelings for you and not to put you on the spot, but I was wondering if you were feeling mutual..Keep it simple and don't have any expectations of what she might say. Leave it completey open to that you have no idea how she will respond. Tell her your not talking marriage or anything, but was wondering if maybe things have happened to fast...
Be honest. Trust me in a world where everyone wants to be the "one in control" and games seem to be the norm. She might actually respect your honesty and your willingness to slow it down and work with her...Just be honest but not to the point of scaring the sh t out of her..Like I love you, your the one, blah, blah, blah..Way to soon for that. Just say that you are starting to think about her and ask her if she is doing the same..From that alone, you will get your answers. And forget this texting thing. Forget this trying to analyze everything said or not said. Just be direct. Maybe even make up a little lie. Tell her you haven't dated in a while. You like her and that the last thing you would want to do is scare her off, because you like her and its been a while. Ask her what pace would be more comfortable to her.
It's not really my style to put limitations on things, plus we already admitted after the 1st date we gave each other butterflies.
You sound more like a kid in high school than a 30 year old. Learn to use the telephone, learn to be patient, learn to act like an adult, remember, she is not indebted to you.
Dude, I think you are coming on a bit too strong, you definitely need to relax. It is easy to get excited when you first meet someone you may connect with but KEEP YOUR OPTIONS open!
How about trying to go on a date with another girl? Women don't like guys who are constantly texting, calling, etc, so if you happen to score a date with another girl, I guarantee you things will balance a bit and if she is interested, she will start to show more interest.
I think it is too soon to be expecting so much from a person you hardly know, like I said, I hope you are not one of those stereotypical "nice guys" who fall in love with a woman after a couple dates.
Or better yet, why don't you ignore all game playing altogether and just straight out ask her where she's at.
Something like this. I know we haven't had a lot of dates but I am having some small feelings for you and starting to think about you alot and not to put you on the spot, but I was wondering if these feelings were mutual?..
OMG! Do not follow this advice!! This is going to be the quickest and easiest for you to lose this girl.
The best way to keep a girl interested is to be consistent and show your cards one at a time. Nothing turns a girl off more quickly than guys that show all their cards at once, especially after only a couple dates!
-She couldn't make it, texted me apologizing, moved 2nd date to Thurs
-SHE kissed ME on 2nd date
-Everything in these two dates was great: laughs, chemistry, were both incredible; talked about having a joint bday party in December etc; made plans for Monday (this week)
-Texted her Monday about getting together
-All of a sudden she goes cold, "Cant meet today, have a meeting"
-Haven't heard from her since then (which was Monday); although we are still friends on FB, and she liked my status yesterday, so she hasn't COMPLETELY cut off contact
What the hell? I'm close to giving up on dating completely.
Wow. Well, I don't know what is going on with she or with you, for that matter, but I can tell you what happened with me.
I was speaking with three men from match. One was about ten years younger than me, the other two near my age but older. The youngest was the most talkative, and we had spoken on the phone as well.
At that point I was trying to narrow it down. There were also others but really, they were just someone to chat w every once in a while... they were in the background. These three were in the up front.
So, I talked to the young man quite a bit on the phone in the evenings and he seemed really nice. Maybe a little too rowdy for me but I was thinking it would be ok. One of the older ones really quiet and the other one I could only talk to in the late evenings due to his job.
One day the young man texts me while I am at work and asks what I am up to. I reply with working, and leave it at that. I had talked to him during my lunchtime the day before, and the evening before we had also spoken on the phone. At this point I had not met any of them.
At the end of the day, which was a very busy day at best, I text the young man. He responds with who is this. Ok, so we both know this means I am off his contact list on his phone, I am erased.
I go home and fire up facebook and we are no longer friends.
He says he thought I didn't want anything to do with him since I didn't carry on a conversation with him while I was at work.
Well, obviously he was not for me. He did, however, jump to some pretty high conclusions because of the way I had answered his text, which was only a very matter of factly answer.
For several months I have been seeing the quiet gentleman and could not be more happy.
I don't know if any of this tells you anything, just my story..
-She couldn't make it, texted me apologizing, moved 2nd date to Thurs
-SHE kissed ME on 2nd date
-Everything in these two dates was great: laughs, chemistry, were both incredible; talked about having a joint bday party in December etc; made plans for Monday (this week)
-Texted her Monday about getting together
-All of a sudden she goes cold, "Cant meet today, have a meeting"
-Haven't heard from her since then (which was Monday); although we are still friends on FB, and she liked my status yesterday, so she hasn't COMPLETELY cut off contact
What the hell? I'm close to giving up on dating completely.
Just relax and don't rush anything, otherwise you'll **** it all up for sure.
Just being honest.
I've followed a couple of OP's threads, and I came in here with the sole purpose of finding out how old the lady in question is. I was anticipating 40-55 but it's pretty safe to say I'm quite disappointed. Hawk50, I thought you wanted a real cougar?
I texted her, and she said she needs space and it has nothing to do with not wanting to see me anymore.
ugh, I feel so stupid. I will CERTAINLY not contact her ever again. I will wait for her to do so.
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This is going to be the quickest and easiest for you to lose this girl. 
