How Physically Attracted Are You to Your Significant Other? (long-term, woman, love)
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Just wondering how physically/sexually attracted people are to their significant other. If you don't currently have a significant other, you can vote or state how much you feel you need to be physically attracted to a partner for you to be satisfied in the relationship. When I say "physically attracted", I mean how much do you desire this person on a carnal level and want to be physically intimate with them. If you answer that you're not very physically attracted to your SO, have you always felt that way or did your feelings change over time?
I am asking this question because I've heard that a strong sexual attraction to your mate is not that important when it comes to sustaining a long-term relationship. Therefore, I'm trying not to focus so much on the physical when evaluating potential partners, but I just have a hard time getting excited about a guy who I don't really have a desire to make out with. He could technically be aesthetically pleasing, but if I don't look at him and truly desire him on a sexual level (even after getting to know him) then I'm not sure that I should pursue anything with him. Is a strong sexual desire for your partner really not that important?
I have a woman friend that I've known for a number of
years who recently took up with someone she had a
relationship with 30-years ago.
Apparently the guy has gained a significant amount of
weight to be considered obese but she tells me she can
deal with that.
I'm scratching my head wondering exactly what she
means by "deal with that"... because it is him who has
to deal with the weight on a daily basis not her.
I suppose in her eyes that will not be an impediment
to starting the relationship up again after 30-years.
I've heard that a strong sexual attraction to your mate is not that important when it comes to sustaining a long-term relationship
.
Well, sexual attraction changes over time in a long-term relationship. That "butterflies in your stomach" feeling of new lust/love does fade. I don't know any couple who can sustain that, but those giddy feelings are replaced by deeper emotions.
I'm actually more attracted to my husband now (both of us in our 40's), that I was when we met at 15. The sex is much better too. A huge component in maintaining sexual attraction is that neither partner should get fat, unless their spouse is turned on by larger people. Both should remain fit, active and keep themselves up. My husband weighs the same now as he did at 16... 164 pounds. I would not be pleased if he was 200 pounds and my sexual attraction would diminish drastically. That is not shallow, it's just a reality. People should remember that love in unconditional but attraction is not.
Well, sexual attraction changes over time in a long-term relationship. That "butterflies in your stomach" feeling of new lust/love does fade. I don't know any couple who can sustain that, but those giddy feelings are replaced by deeper emotions.
I'm actually more attracted to my husband now (both of us in our 40's), that I was when we met at 15. The sex is much better too. A huge component in maintaining sexual attraction is that neither partner should get fat, unless their spouse is turned on by larger people. Both should remain fit, active and keep themselves up. My husband weighs the same now as he did at 16... 164 pounds. I would not be pleased if he was 200 pounds and my sexual attraction would diminish drastically. That is not shallow, it's just a reality. People should remember that love in unconditional but attraction is not.
what is he 5'7?
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