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Well... She should have thrown the letters. Cheating is cheating. The old boy has testicular fortitiude if anything.
Why would anyone have affair letters in the house from forty years? The issue here is not the affair, but the deceitful behavior of his wife for so many years. I can understand why he would question whether his children are his. There may be a a lot of surprises. Ninety nine years old and still mentally competent is awesome.
Why would a ninety nine year old man be rummaging through a chest of drawers?
For all we know, he may have suspected for many decades that his wife was "longing" for someone else and just never could prove it.
On top of it, there may be something that we don't know that has made him wonder about the paternity of his children.
This could have been an ongoing question in his mind for all these years!
I know women who are in their 70s and still "carrying a torch" for someone else. It happens! Maybe that was this situation and the husband just finally figured it all out - and felt vindicated by insisting they get a divorce.
Maybe he has stayed with her for the sake of keeping the family together all these years and now feels like he was deceived - but still has time to set the record straight. One can never guess at how someone else's head (and heart!) works. Too many variables.
But I don't think it is fair to assume he is senile.
I'm not saying I wouldn't have been mad either, but I mean this guy is 99! How much longer does he have? I think something that happend that long ago I would just let it go.
You just stepped on the problem without realizing it. How exactly does one "just let it go", regardless of the details we're fixated on as observers. Finding out someone betrayed you changes the way you see them, which changes everything about the relationship. It can get stuck in your head at any age, and not easily just shaken out.
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Originally Posted by SD4020
Well... She should have thrown the letters.
There's another point. Why did she keep them so long? This may imply that the affair actually didn't end in the 40s, or at least that her feelings for the other man were still there. That she "settled", perhaps.
Obviously it's a hurt...a big one. And I guess for anyone, even at that age, the first thing that comes to mind is divorce. I hope he has some time to rethink his actions...I suspect that at his age, staying together would serve him much better than splitting up.
As far as wondering if the kids are his...are you serious? He raised them, they are grown. Of course they are his. The biology of it is rather pointless now.
If I live that long, I surely won't be so unforgiving and worrisome at that age.
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