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Maybe he has a new girlfriend, and wants to spend time with her.
I actually feel for this guy, he must feel very betrayed after all these years of thinking he knew someone, and now realizing it was all BS. Like his entire marriage was not real, and just a joke. I hope he dies happy and at peace.
Maybe he has a new girlfriend, and wants to spend time with her.
I actually feel for this guy, he must feel very betrayed after all these years of thinking he knew someone, and now realizing it was all BS. Like his entire marriage was not real, and just a joke. I hope he dies happy and at peace.
I get where you are coming from - but just because she had an affair doesn't mean that their whole relationship was a joke. She had the affair 50 years ago! Who knows what was going on 50 years ago! They might have been having problems and they might have worked them out since then. Just because she cheated on him 50 years ago doesn't nullify the whole relationship. I'm not saying he doesn't have a right to his feelings - and if I were in his shoes, I'd be devastated. But I'm just thinking that if I found out that my husband had an affair years ago - if he regretted it and kept on loving me ever since - I'm not so sure I'd divorce him. And we've only been together for 10 years.
However, the fact that she kept the letters does make me wonder...
I get where you are coming from - but just because she had an affair doesn't mean that their whole relationship was a joke. She had the affair 50 years ago! Who knows what was going on 50 years ago! They might have been having problems and they might have worked them out since then. Just because she cheated on him 50 years ago doesn't nullify the whole relationship. I'm not saying he doesn't have a right to his feelings - and if I were in his shoes, I'd be devastated. But I'm just thinking that if I found out that my husband had an affair years ago - if he regretted it and kept on loving me ever since - I'm not so sure I'd divorce him. And we've only been together for 10 years.
However, the fact that she kept the letters does make me wonder...
We forget that some folks do NOT love their children and some folks are mean spirited and vindictive. Just cause he is old, doesn't mean he is a nice person - maybe he has lived a long, hate-filled, spiteful existence.
Some people cannot forgive and indeed, won't ask for forgiveness (don't want it!) - especially if they have been angry and hateful their whole lives.
I have a very close friend whose father was a mean, abusive autocrat to the day he died. He beat his wife and kids when they were little. And as he lay on his death bed, my friend tried to once again reach out to him and connect with him. He had never told her he loved her - even as a child. He was just a damn mean man and as he lay there and she tried to connect with him - hoping he would say he loved her or that he was sorry for the way he had treated her - he just grunted and pulled his hand away from hers. His last words?
Leave me alone.
Some people are just mean to the end.
We just don't know what this man is all about. We can assume he is not the typical personality type, tho, b/c most folks would simply not behave this way at his advanced age. They would want to keep peace in their lives, not create a huge drama.
Just a question...if the genders were reversed and the wife found out about him cheating....would you guys make snide remarks about her for leaving?
I think most folks are just stunned that anyone of either gender would do such a thing at 99 and after 77 years of marriage (and history) with another person.
Just a question...if the genders were reversed and the wife found out about him cheating....would you guys make snide remarks about her for leaving?
It would make no difference.
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I think most folks are just stunned that anyone of either gender would do such a thing at 99 and after 77 years of marriage (and history) with another person.
Actually, she does have a valid point. If it turns out that these children are not genetically his - it won't change the love he feels for them. Whether or not they are biologically his children - at this point in time, they are his children. It's not like he would suddenly stop loving them. And it's not like it would be the children's fault. At this point in time - I doubt he would even want to know.
Again the only ones saying this B.S. are women. Not buying it, sorry. Safe it for some other sucker.
I think most folks are just stunned that anyone of either gender would do such a thing at 99 and after 77 years of marriage (and history) with another person.
I don't think it is a gender thing at all.
Actually, I'd be more stunned if the man stuck with the wife, and asking for a Paternity test seems fairly logical IMO. I mean, I'd be curious to know the extent to which I was deceived, and although the result won't change the relationship with the children, it might with the wife.
However, I agree that this isn't gender-related.
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