Should I Confess? (husbands, family, relations, abusive)
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Absolutely not. Your confession can only lessen your own guilt, not be of help your husband. In fact, it sounds like a hidden agenda of punishing him for him not being more attentive to you.
If you think your porn watching is wrong, stop it and make amends to your husband by being more understanding of his problems. If you don't think it is wrong, continue it as your own personal business without troubling him with it.
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Originally Posted by LookinForMayberry
If a confession is necessary for your personal happiness and detrimental to someone else's -- suffer in silence. If the truth is necessary to allow someone to move past a difficult point in their life, tell it no matter how much it hurts you.
Never do anything you would hesitate to tell your loved one you did.
I didn't connect a previous thread with this, as some have, but just based on the OPs opening post, I agree with the above.
Now, if the OP wishes to throw in other facts, then I would still agree with the above but might offer additional information.
I just don't see the point in telling her husband that she has found an alternate means of getting her sexual needs met since he is unable/unwilling/doesn't want to.
Confessing to watching porn? There's no need for a "confession". Do you confess when you eat cake as well? Why?
If your marriage is already bad , and you know he will be mad at you, that is not normal. Please seek help or leave him.
Exactly! Women have equal rights now...even in porn watching.
If this man is being abusive...leave him, people like that do not change.
I speak from experience. Life is too short to waste 1 more day on someone like that.
Dear OP, last we spoke you were working on an exit plan to leave your book throwing, name calling husband. I'm confused as to why you have now switched the focus on confessing to him about such a futile subject. This husband that you're with is just going to use this information against you. You need to stay focused on getting out of your marriage and taking your life back. As for the porn, learn to enjoy your own sexually, I personally am not a big fan of porn and it sounds to me that you are ashamed of it. I would suggest that you practice accepting your own sexuality without the porn for awhile and see how you feel. Obviously you need to take care of your own needs, your particular husband doesn't need to be privy on the info.
If you're in a relationship and both are OK with watching porn, nothing.
If you're in a relationship and the other has an issue with porn, something.
No the problem is that other person then lol. I'm not changing my habits because my mate has hang ups over them. Simply put it, they need to get over them.
No the problem is that other person then lol. I'm not changing my habits because my mate has hang ups over them. Simply put it, they need to get over them.
No the problem is that other person then lol. I'm not changing my habits because my mate has hang ups over them. Simply put it, they need to get over them.
I'm sure you'll find numerous men who would be just fine with you watching your porn...
What concerns me with the OP is the guilt she associates with her sexual activity and choices.
I'm sure you'll find numerous men who would be just fine with you watching your porn...
What concerns me with the OP is the guilt she associates with her sexual activity and choices.
I would care less if they liked it or not. What i do for myself is my own business, and not any of their concern
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