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I was just curious as to what your opinions were on contacting people online who live several states away? As an example, say you were browsing on match.com or Plenty of Fish and you came across a profile of someone who fit what you were looking for perfectly, both looks, personality and values. Problem was though, that they lived several states away or 500+ miles. Would you contact them because they had what you were looking for, or would you not waste your time knowing that it would be very tough to see them?
Personally, I think that sometimes you might have to look a bit out of range to find what you want. And if you find it, then who knows what might happen. But on the other hand, some people might decide to lower their expectations a bit to find someone closer to their location.
I would imagine that most people find it more practical to look for possible mates close to their geographical location, but its certainly not a must. A freind of mine met his current wife playing an online game MMORPG, where the only means of communication was typing. No pictures, dating profiles or any of that. The girl lived in another country but they seemed to randomly click, so after a while of communicatng online, he took a trip to meet her in person. They have been happily married for 7 years. My only advice would be to go for it, but in order not to get burned make sure to get to know this person as much as possible, before investing money on plane tickets and such. Good Luck!
I'd think that people in general want to stick to their location but if the person sounds so good, why not send them an email? The worst that could happen is that they do not reply and in that case you'd be exactly where you are now. But if you do not try, then you'd be wondering what if.
I did that once. I really want to move to the South this year but I cannot move without securing employment. I am visiting a friend to the state where I want to move to in February so just out of curiosity I did a search on Match on her city. I found this guy who I thought looked very cute and his profile was very unusual and funny. I sent him an email just to let him know what I thought and wish him luck in his search and he replied to thank me. I'd not pursue a long distance relashionship just because I tried it once and it ended up very badly, but everybody is different. I say go for it.
If you want to look for someone 500+ miles away, you must at least consider possibility of relocation.
Absolutely agree.
If you want to look at profiles at such a great distance, you have to have some idea or plan in the back of your mind on how you will make a relationship work it, after contacting them, you still want to pursue one.
For example, say this person 500 miles is your soul mate. Are you ready to move to be with them?
A distance relationship can work for some time, but not indefinately.
There is really no problem in looking for people at great distances, and there are certainly enough success stories to show it can work. However, it also takes a much greater degree of flexibility to make it work.
The cross-country booty call is an impressive achievement in online dating, but only if you can get the girl to fly to you. If you have to do the traveling yourself, then you're just a chump who has to fly across the country to get laid.
My biggest score was getting a chick to fly from California to Florida for a weekend hook-up. It is definitely worth it to contact chicks even if they live hundreds of miles away. To avoid wasting your time with them though, suss them out ASAP by determining if they're adventurous enough to take a flight your way in the near future.
Whenever I take trips, I always look for babes in that city to meet up with. It never fails me Although, I can't say I'm doing it in search of a relationship.
If you are tied down to the place where you live then I would caution you in contacting people who live several states away.
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Although, I can't say I'm doing it in search of a relationship.
