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is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
Ok, most everyone is saying turning away is strong but I disagree. Facing issues takes more strength. It's not giving in to the argument, it's facing the problem and resolving it. Walking away and hoping the issue goes away with it is weak because it will surface again in time. Deal with crap when it comes along with your partner and your relationship will be stronger for it.
Great relationships have conflict. What separates great relationships from bad is how you deal with the conflict.
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Ok, most everyone is saying turning away is strong but I disagree. Facing issues takes more strength. It's not giving in to the argument, it's facing the problem and resolving it. Walking away and hoping the issue goes away with it is weak because it will surface again in time. Deal with crap when it comes along with your partner and your relationship will be stronger for it.
Great relationships have conflict. What separates great relationships from bad is how you deal with the conflict.
I have been in a relationship where every time I gave in or walked away so to speak, the other person gained more control. I am not saying this is always the case but with some people, "Give them and inch and they think they are the ruler." It is extreemly hard to deal with people like this. Even paying them a complement seems to give them more power over you. Their goal is to gain more power in the relationship and be the boss over you. There is almost never a win/win situation. It's all for them and none for you.
IMO, there is a difference between an argument and a disagreement. You can disagree without arguing. If you are disagreeing, then stay and work it out. If you are arguing, then walk away, let everyone calm down, and then work it out.
Some people seem to just plain like to get there way all the time without many comprimises. Some people are passive and just plain don't like to argue almost no mater what. The problem comes when one of each of these are in a relationship together. The person wanting there way all the time will "run roughshod" over the passive person in many cases. As people age some get more bossy and some get more passive. I have seem relationships go down hill because one or both people will change as they got older to more or less pasive or more or less bossy.
Ok, most everyone is saying turning away is strong but I disagree. Facing issues takes more strength. It's not giving in to the argument, it's facing the problem and resolving it. Walking away and hoping the issue goes away with it is weak because it will surface again in time. Deal with crap when it comes along with your partner and your relationship will be stronger for it.
Great relationships have conflict. What separates great relationships from bad is how you deal with the conflict.
That should be what you live by. Anyone can walk away. The strongest stay in the game until it's finished. There isn't any time outs for conflict. The strongest person can solve the conflict and still be smiling while it's taking place.
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