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Pick your battles wisely because arguing, if it happens a lot, can really wear a person down mentally and physically. However, trying to work it out before it gets to an argument is better for all involved.
As far as weakness is concerned.....I don't think it's weak to walk away, it's actually showing strength IMO. A person who feels they have to argue all the time, or whenever a conflict comes up, would seem pretty immature to me. Along with ill-tempered. Neither aspect is appealing to me. Just my 2 cents.
Sometimes it's nobler to walk away, sometimes we should be passionate enough about the cause to engage.
The clever trick is knowing which situation you're in.
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Originally Posted by jazzyj19
is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
The real concern should be in really hearing what the other has to say which means staying and communicating. Being 'nice' and walking away isn't contributing anything to the relationship. If you're with someone who just likes to argue all the time with no meaning, then just walk away from the relationship, period.
My soon to be ex and I had one last blowout a couple of months ago right before I moved out. I hate to raise my voice but I guess after 10 years of marriage she still remembered what buttons to push. These days if I can walk away from an arguement I will even more so I'll remain calm and let the other person go off. That really seems to make them more up set. I don't think it's worth it to be honest, nor do I see it as an act of weakness either. it's a sign of maturity if you ask me.
In an argument, withdrawing or walking away really doesn't solve anything in the long run. However, if the situation is going to get heated, it sometimes is best to walk away for a while in the short run, until you are ready to communicate without anger.
is it a sign of weakness to be nice and turn the other way?
sometimes, yes.
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Or should you stand up and give in to the argument??
sometimes, yes. however these aren't the only two choices. it's important to know how to diffuse an argument without engaging the other person directly.
Depends on what the argument is about. "Choose your battles wisely," is a good motto to live by.
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