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I'd try to stop feeling so guilty about it. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone besides your partner, as long as that's all it is. Don't let this become something more than it is by making a big deal out of it.
Then don't cheat, end of that part of the discussion.
I don't know why you are attracted to Asian women, but apparently it's a rather common theme for men. I think huckleberry said it best. All things being equal, I'm attracted to a certain type. Yep, get a little nervous around 'em too.......and there is the end. It's harmless unless you act on it. I think most people have private fantasies and it's okay as long as they don't overtake your life or make you decide to run away from home to pursue your daydream.
I will never leave the happy life I have with my wife just to pursue pointless desires that arise once in a blue.
OK, then that's it in a nutshell.
I agree with everyone else you married way too young, but what's done is done. Don't you think every married person is attracted to other people besides their spouse? It's normal and universal. You said yourself your obsession with Asian chicks is a "pointless desire." So put that into perspective and focus on your wife. You'll never get over being attracted to Asian woman, nothing wrong with that. Acting on those desires could end up blowing up in your face: the end of your marriage and all that baggage.
Yes I know attraction isn't a choice but I love my wife and even distractions like that make me feel guilty. Any ideas? I will never leave the happy life I have with my wife just to pursue pointless desires that arise once in a blue.
You sound like a guy who loves and appreciates your wife. You just happen to be very attracted to Asian women and she's not Asian. I don't think this is a problem and I don't think that trying to suppress your attraction will work at all. You can be attracted to Asian women and still be devoted to your wife.
Perhaps. I too no longer think of it once their gone. I guess I dont like the idea that other women can make me feel this way.
If you have any self control then it doesn't matter does it?
Just for heaven's sake don't tell your wife because it would probably break her heart.
You are married, not dead - you can look, but I think it's weird that you are just SO attracted to Asian women that it makes you nervous. I think it sounds like you have some sort of bizarre fetish. Just get a grip and concentrate more energy on your wife and less on having heart palpatations over random other women.
Tough balls. You made vows based on a true love and you have to stick to them if you have integrity. Sadly most people today think it's all a joke and some trivial matter and something you can just toss away into the breeze if it doesn't suit you because something appearing "better" comes along.
I don't think he wants to toss it away. If you read the rest of his post and all of his other posts, he has assured us that he won't even consider it. That's why the last line of his OP talking about hotel rooms and such was a little weird and offpoint, but I'm choosing to ignore that.
OP, no big deal. I bet everyone woman you meet who is married to a fat slobbenly Drew Carey/George Wendt/Hurley from Lost type of dude is lusting and/or super attracted to George Clooney/Brad Pitt/Ryan Gosling types.
So you are in company with most married people. No big deal.
I don't think he wants to toss it away. If you read the rest of his post and all of his other posts, he has assured us that he won't even consider it. That's why the last line of his OP talking about hotel rooms and such was a little weird and offpoint, but I'm choosing to ignore that.
Sorry, that last line was a failed attempt of a metaphor. Basically I meant I won't leave a great thing for a quick fling.
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