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This is inspired by the title of another recent thread here, but this is different. Let's say you're given two options, and you must choose one. This will probably mostly apply to single people.
First option: You are suddenly given the perfect relationship with a person you love more than you ever thought possible. He/she is literally the perfect mate for you in every way conceivable. He/she sticks by you no matter what, and loves you unconditionally. However, you'll never, ever have much money in your entire life. No matter what job you manage to get, you'll, for whatever reason (magic?) always just barely scrape by each month. You won't starve, but you'll frequently be hungry but unable to afford enough food (without dipping into funds to pay the rent, lights, water, etc.). Notice I said "enough" food. You'll have food, but often not as much as would be ideal. All luxuries (internet, cable, eating out) are strictly out of the question. Still, your perfect partner sticks by you no matter what and your relationship remains wonderful regardless of finances, but money will always be a worry to you. You have the option of children, and your finances will be adjusted accordingly so that you get by, but just barely. You may or may not have friends, just as you would normally.
Second option: You have unlimited money, but without any of the potential down-sides this might bring. (I'm not sure what those downsides may be, I'm just trying to cover everything.) You can work if you want to, but it's not necessary. You can travel anywhere you want whenever you want, you can have a go at any hobby imaginable, you can use your money to help others, literally anything you can think of (legally) you have the funds to throw at it. Your only limit is your imagination. However, you'll never fall in love. You may casually date, but it never goes beyond that. If you want children you're certainly free to adopt or use a surrogate, but you'll never be married, never have any sort of life-partner. You may or may not have friends, just as you would normally.
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This is inspired by the title of another recent thread here, but this is different. Let's say you're given two options, and you must choose one. This will probably mostly apply to single people.
First option: You are suddenly given the perfect relationship with a person you love more than you ever thought possible. He/she is literally the perfect mate for you in every way conceivable. He/she sticks by you no matter what, and loves you unconditionally. However, you'll never, ever have much money in your entire life. No matter what job you manage to get, you'll, for whatever reason (magic?) always just barely scrape by each month. You won't starve, but you'll frequently be hungry but unable to afford enough food (without dipping into funds to pay the rent, lights, water, etc.). Notice I said "enough" food. You'll have food, but often not as much as would be ideal. All luxuries (internet, cable, eating out) are strictly out of the question. Still, your perfect partner sticks by you no matter what and your relationship remains wonderful regardless of finances, but money will always be a worry to you. You have the option of children, and your finances will be adjusted accordingly so that you get by, but just barely. You may or may not have friends, just as you would normally.
Second option: You have unlimited money, but without any of the potential down-sides this might bring. (I'm not sure what those downsides may be, I'm just trying to cover everything.) You can work if you want to, but it's not necessary. You can travel anywhere you want whenever you want, you can have a go at any hobby imaginable, you can use your money to help others, literally anything you can think of (legally) you have the funds to throw at it. Your only limit is your imagination. However, you'll never fall in love. You may casually date, but it never goes beyond that. If you want children you're certainly free to adopt or use a surrogate, but you'll never be married, never have any sort of life-partner. You may or may not have friends, just as you would normally.
Provided I can get sex on occasion, DEFINITELY second option!!!!
Love don't pay the bills. Love can lead you into nothing but trouble sometimes. Love ain't these days and I'd gladly trade it for an never ending cash cow.
Honestly, love in poverty is pretty tough to manage. Money sure greases the skids. But, that being said, if my mate was truly my soul mate, I could live without money, after all, who needs cable when you can make love for free?
This is a no-brainer for me. Money ofcourse. I can get so many women with that.
But remember, no matter how many women you manage to date, none of them will ever want an actual relationship with you. You might get sex or you might not, but no matter what, none of them will ever love you.
Now that I'm older? Money. And trust me - with money, I would have friends. Everyone has friends who has money. Sometime they just turn out to be Paris Hilton or something.
I actually have a friend who is incredibly wealthy, self-made man - you'd never know to look at him on a normal day, but when he's doing his society thing he's an impeccable dresser and it is obvious he has some cash behind him. Some women know he has the $$, some don't....no one knows for a really long time, he just doesn't broadcast it. A nicer, more genuine guy couldn't be found.
He still can't find "love" or any reasonable facsimile thereof. He HAS managed to locate every golddigger in this hemisphere if he even hinted at his net worth.
Would he trade his money for the perfect someone and relationship as outlined above? I texted him and asked. And I quote, "HELL no".
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Because I've (twice with the same man) had true, unconditional love and know for a fact it exists and how amazing it is, and because I've had a big bank account too, I can say without a shred of doubt, love. I'd live in a one room shack with the right man. There is ALWAYS a way to make it financially. You have to make it happen. Determination.
Had it been a choice between health and money, at this point in my life I'd go with health, but this one is a no-brainer for me. Love in this kind of severe poverty is for the birds. Most people these days eat "food products," not food, so I'll be good with whatever love "product" I can get.
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It didn't take long for this thread to derail into holy land! That wasn't a variable in the equation.
Oops. LOL
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these days and I'd gladly trade it for an never ending cash cow.
That wasn't a variable in the equation.
