Why is marriage and a family THE main life aim for so many girls/women? (dates, wife)
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It seems to me that there is an unusually high level of desire & fixation among young girls & women to meet the right man at some point, marry and then have a family.
I say unusual because I don't see that there is a corresponding level of interest among young guys and men to do the same thing, so I wonder why this disparity exists.
Sure, I know how the images/ideas of what girls are supposed to do/want/aim for in life is a long held view, imbued for a very long time in all modern cultures, but why doesn't this also apply to boys and men (or as much)?
Clearly, enough men have wanted to have such a life, as evidenced by 7 billion humans alive today, even if some of those people weren't wanted or don't know who their father (and/or mother) are.
Actually - 2 out of the 3 men that I had long term relationships both wanted marriage and a family. One of them is my husband - and we just had a baby. The other one is now married with a child as well. And for the record - my husband was pushing for a baby before I was. He actually had to persuade me that the time was right!
I'd say that it has been the goal for many men that I know to get married and start a family.
It seems to me that there is an unusually high level of desire & fixation among young girls & women to meet the right man at some point, marry and then have a family.
I say unusual because I don't see that there is a corresponding level of interest among young guys and men to do the same thing, so I wonder why this disparity exists.
Sure, I know how the images/ideas of what girls are supposed to do/want/aim for in life is a long held view, imbued for a very long time in all modern cultures, but why doesn't this also apply to boys and men (or as much)?
Clearly, enough men have wanted to have such a life, as evidenced by 7 billion humans alive today, even if some of those people weren't wanted or don't know who their father (and/or mother) are.
Men and women are wired differently, surely this is not news to you?
It was for me in my day (I'm 53). I didn't want kids though but once I got married I changed my mind and it seemed like the next logical step.
My D25 has her own ideas. She has had a couple bf's who wanted to get married and have kids but she swears she never wants children and has a lot she wants to do before settling down with anyone. Her current fella wants a kid within the next 5 years and she joked that he better start looking for another gf...maybe he will! She doesn't understand why guys like that are always drawn to her because she's very upfront and outspoken about things. I'm torn because I love how independent she is but I'm old fashioned enough to want her to do things the way I did them....haha.
I say unusual because I don't see that there is a corresponding level of interest among young guys and men to do the same thing, so I wonder why this disparity exists.
Actually - 2 out of the 3 men that I had long term relationships both wanted marriage and a family. One of them is my husband - and we just had a baby. The other one is now married with a child as well. And for the record - my husband was pushing for a baby before I was. He actually had to persuade me that the time was right!
I'd say that it has been the goal for many men that I know to get married and start a family.
Congrats Dewdrop! Did you have a boy or a girl?
As a single woman, I've had quite a few dates with men who make it quite clear they're looking for a wife and kids. These are guys in their late twenties, early thirties. It's a bit odd for me, like putting the cart before the horse because they talk about already having the nest (home) and wanting to fill it on the first date!
For me, I care about finding someone I want to share my life with and that it's solid before I'd think about the rest.
As a single woman, I've had quite a few dates with men who make it quite clear they're looking for a wife and kids. These are guys in their late twenties, early thirties. It's a bit odd for me, like putting the cart before the horse because they talk about already having the nest (home) and wanting to fill it on the first date!
For me, I care about finding someone I want to share my life with and that it's solid before I'd think about the rest.
A beautiful little boy!
My husband always wanted to have a family - but he said that it wasn't until he met me that he actually thought about settling down for real. He said marriage never even came up with his college girlfriend.
My husband always wanted to have a family - but he said that it wasn't until he met me that he actually thought about settling down for real. He said marriage never even came up with his college girlfriend.
Congrats!!!!!!!
Awwwww
There would be a guy or a girl that would come in your life and change your perspective. It happened to me. I had no intention of ever wanting to get married. But there is a guy who I would in a freaking heartbeat settle down with and have a family with him.
Conditioning is certainly part of it.
It's expected. There are tv, books, parents, church, etc screaming at it you all of your life.
What is one thing women can do that men can't?
Bring life into this world.
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