In a relationship with a widower for three years, what do i do next?? (wife, girls)
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Hi Everybody, I'll try and keep this as short and sweet as possible. Would appreciate some advice on what to do next.
i am in a relationship with a widower (late wife passed away four years ago, cancer) we have been together for three years. He is 17 years older than me, has three older daughters 35, 30, 26 whom i have never met. I have two children 11 & 8, he is there godfather, he stays over at our home 2 maybe 3 times a week, has taken my eldest to a football matches, been on a family holiday with my parents and brother... I have washed and ironed his clothes, cleaned his home, organised his paperwork & finances, cooked him meals (loads) etc,etc. his daughters live anhour or so away, so visits are very few and far between. he has attended three wedding without me. his daughters were told about me 18 months ago. If any of his girls call his phone whilst he's at mine he will say he is out and about...not mention me at all. i arranged a surprise for him on valentines, organised my parents to have my children overnight, however his daughter rang to say she was coming to stay overnight, every night, but didnt show at all and when she did she stayed for two hours, so then it was £115 out of my pocket and no surprise for him. i think you can get a pretty good picture, today I asked him if he was joing us for Roast dinner 'yes please, we'll go for a drink at the local first'. Gets a phonecall his daughter is on her way, I then hear nothing until i call him to see if he is ready, he was eating dinner that she prepared for him, I got Sorry! you can eat my dinner cant you? NOW thats it not only did he call me his LW name this morning, but also a few weeks back I was cleaning his tiny bedroom that he sleeps in and found his LW make up, wig, and bag of undies!!!! I made a light joke of it and he took them out to put with her other belongings ( only went in October) Oh my Goodness, yesterday, the bag of undies are back in the bedroom cupboard...Please Help me...I dont know what to say or do...I am stuck
Hi Everybody, I'll try and keep this as short and sweet as possible. Would appreciate some advice on what to do next.
i am in a relationship with a widower (late wife passed away four years ago, cancer) we have been together for three years. He is 17 years older than me, has three older daughters 35, 30, 26 whom i have never met. I have two children 11 & 8, he is there godfather, he stays over at our home 2 maybe 3 times a week, has taken my eldest to a football matches, been on a family holiday with my parents and brother... I have washed and ironed his clothes, cleaned his home, organised his paperwork & finances, cooked him meals (loads) etc,etc. his daughters live anhour or so away, so visits are very few and far between. he has attended three wedding without me. his daughters were told about me 18 months ago. If any of his girls call his phone whilst he's at mine he will say he is out and about...not mention me at all. i arranged a surprise for him on valentines, organised my parents to have my children overnight, however his daughter rang to say she was coming to stay overnight, every night, but didnt show at all and when she did she stayed for two hours, so then it was £115 out of my pocket and no surprise for him. i think you can get a pretty good picture, today I asked him if he was joing us for Roast dinner 'yes please, we'll go for a drink at the local first'. Gets a phonecall his daughter is on her way, I then hear nothing until i call him to see if he is ready, he was eating dinner that she prepared for him, I got Sorry! you can eat my dinner cant you? NOW thats it not only did he call me his LW name this morning, but also a few weeks back I was cleaning his tiny bedroom that he sleeps in and found his LW make up, wig, and bag of undies!!!! I made a light joke of it and he took them out to put with her other belongings ( only went in October) Oh my Goodness, yesterday, the bag of undies are back in the bedroom cupboard...Please Help me...I dont know what to say or do...I am stuck
I'd say a guy who hides you from other people, be they even his children (and they're waaayy grown-up enough), is not worth your time.
The bolded part I didn't quite understand or at least I hope I didn't! What is LW name and LW make-up?
He has become a part of your life, but he has not allowed you to become a part of his. That's a problem no matter what the reason, but more complicated due these circumstances.
I speculate he enjoys dressing up as a drag queen. LW stuff... nope that's his stuff.
Could be, even though I just think he's not ready to allow another person into his life and he may never be. It's not uncommon. Just about all the threads about widowers are the same. He's certainly not a winner even without this potential "minor" addition.
hi, thank you all for your replies. hehe, did make me laugh about the make up and undies..lol, I have had the heart to heart just last week about his girls, he just say's they know about you, I'm not nervous about them meeting you, it will happen when it happens, however when i went to his place saturday his youngest was there, he was talking to me with his grandson (one year) but didnt say get out of the car, nothing, he just said i'll call you later!! is it time i took the hint, am i just not good enough, is he having his cake and eating it because now my eldest son is noticing it and although he loves him to bits, thinks he is a coward and is turning a little
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What is LW name and LW make-up?
