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Old 03-14-2012, 08:07 PM
 
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Many complain about a cheating partner. And blame the other.
Maybe you're being cheated on is because you're a boring person, humorless, inactive, dull witted, controlling, demanding, or religious zealot.
Don't cast all blame on your partner. Try some self-examination. You just might discover a reason.

 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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^^^ I agree! Except for habitual cheaters, there most likely is something about the cheated partner (you).
Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship - something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, people find someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse etc.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:13 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Visvaldis View Post
Many complain about a cheating partner. And blame the other.
Maybe you're being cheated on is because you're a boring person, humorless, inactive, dull witted, controlling, demanding, or religious zealot.
Don't cast all blame on your partner. Try some self-examination. You just might discover a reason.

All 'traits' a person should've figured out before they got married to them in the first place. If you didn't like it then....
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:16 PM
 
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Sounds like a blame-the-victim thread to me...

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Originally Posted by Visvaldis View Post
Many complain about a cheating partner. And blame the other.
Maybe you're being cheated on is because you're a boring person, humorless, inactive, dull witted, controlling, demanding, or religious zealot.
Don't cast all blame on your partner. Try some self-examination. You just might discover a reason.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:17 PM
 
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Forgot to mention...
some people have no compass for eroticism or any feel for passion. Who wants a partner that's as exciting as a frozen fish filet?

Some expect their partner to boost self-esteem, but one should have self-esteem before entering a relationship.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:18 PM
 
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It doesn't matter. If you feel the need to cheat for whatever reason, then be a decent human being and have enough respect for the other person to break up with them first. It's not hard at that point.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:18 PM
 
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All 'traits' a person should've figured out before they got married to them in the first place. If you didn't like it then....
not necessarily .... people can change as time goes by.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:19 PM
 
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While I agree that maybe some blame can be cast on the victim, the wh*re cheating in the relationship gets the lionshare of the blame.

I'm sorry, but if you don't have the balls to tell your partner what is wrong to help him/her change(if it can be changed), there's something wrong with the cheater in the relationship.

I mean, to me hearing "She cheated on me because I'm a boring person, so instead of breaking up with me, she slept with that guy." Isn't right.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:20 PM
 
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It doesn't matter. If you feel the need to cheat for whatever reason, then be a decent human being and have enough respect for the other person to break up with them first. It's not hard at that point.
 
Old 03-14-2012, 08:21 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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not necessarily .... people can change as time goes by.

OK, well I've never been married. I just thought those were excuses for justifying cheating. A person lose interest in things over time, etc. but I still think most of those things are personality and character traits.
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