Should "Bros first" rule take precedent even after guy gets married? (wife) (wives, marriage)
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Was dealing with a few of my long time friends this weekend and their "dramas". Issues with business dealings, kung fu, investments, unfulfilled dreams, etc. and as a detached unbiased outsider, I made a comment that the root of all the "evils" and problems were the wives.
I told them "Look mother effrs" (its how I talk to my friends) "Every single one of you have these specific problems you are "fighting" over or complaining about because of negative (i.e., non-supportive) influences from your wives". Its always the wife telling the husband "Oh you should do this instead of waiting for Matt" or "Why do you have to involve Scott in this?" or "You have kids, you need to think of them first" and so on and so on and so on.
They all laughed when I brought this to their attention and agreed that before getting married, all the plans where great, flawless and sure to work. Then the wives got in the picture and kinda threw wrenches into the program. I said, if you all just DID IT and not solicited the advice from your women, all would be fine in the world. Or, if your women would have been supportive of you, all would be fine. But, even though they may have meant well, their involvement and influence ruined things for you guys. If they all just stuck with the Mod edit: "Bros first" rule, they wouldnt have these issues.
Oh, and before any of you ask what I do, I never put anyone before Mrs. Lao, but I also dont solicit her advice on business of "MEN". Besides, she's supportive of me for whatever I want to do.
Oh, and before any of you ask what I do, I never put anyone before Mrs. Lao, but I also dont solicit her advice on business of "MEN". Besides, she's supportive of me for whatever I want to do.
Not much in the way of being sexist here are you? In my opinion if the business of "Men" includes my money it is MY Business as well.
I own my own business, my husband does not own anything but he does work for me. That being said I still ask his opinion when making a business decision because it does affect both of us in this household.
With that sort of attitude perhaps none of you should be married so you don't have to deal with the Mod cut: language, you can deal with each other and cozy up to each other on a long cold winter's night.
Not much in the way of being sexist here are you? In my opinion if the business of "Men" includes my money it is MY Business as well.
I own my own business, my husband does not own anythingbut he does work for me. That being said I still ask his opinion when making a business decision because it does affect both of us in this household.
With that sort of attitude perhaps none of you should be married so you don't have to deal with the hoes, you can deal with each other and cozy up to each other on a long cold winter's night.
Yikes, . The points you made are a good reason why many uf us may never marry.
Behind every successful man, is either a SUPPORTIVE and LOVING woman, or no woman.
These guys all had plans to do things together, but unfortunately, the influences of the spouses really screwed things up. This is NOT a bashing the wife thread, but is just to give thought to maybe some guys should continue with the "bros before...." rule even after they get married, OR, try to marry someone who supports your plans/dreams and not try to change them.
The rule of Mod edit: "bros first" changes after marriage, specially after there are kids in the picture.
The literal Mod cut. becomes an insult when the woman's status changes into "wife." (Mod comment: The term in question should not be used here. Period.)
Would a man really want such terms to be heard / learned by their kids? No.
Would a man want their kids to have such ideas that their mother is a Mod cut.? No.
Would a man really want such wife with the Mod cut. connotation? No.
The Mod edit: "bros first" is a concept not for it's literal meaning. It is a matter of maintaining male friendships to exist into a man's journey in life, including marriage. It is a concept to express value of male friendships and bonding.
Marriage brings a compromise of one's life to find balance for one's personal growth, personal relationships / friendships with other men, relationships with his work, relationship with his wife, and relationship with his kids.
For a wife to have exclusive friendship with her husband which cuts off that husband's other healthy male friendships will only suffocates that man's well being and personal growth.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 03-19-2012 at 03:28 PM..
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. The points you made are a good reason why many uf us may never marry. 