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I don't regret not responding to an initial message.
I do regret not responding for over a few weeks after we messaged (usually because of bad timing).
This just happened to me. I was emailing with 2 different girls on Match recently. Both conversations were going well (each writing 2 to 3 emails back n' forth), then I asked for the phone number (providing mine as well in case she just wanted to text me so that I'd have hers), and didn't get any response. It's been 2 weeks.
I can't imagine that I offended them in any way, so it must be the case of bad timing where they're also chatting with a bunch of other guys...and I was put on the back burner.
I can't imagine that I offended them in any way, so it must be the case of bad timing where they're also chatting with a bunch of other guys...and I was put on the back burner.
This. If she is attractive, assume that she's talking to multiple guys and may drop you at any minute without notice. Such is (online dating) life.
Obviously online dating is a numbers game, whether you're on Match, PoF, OkC, etc. Both men and women have felt regret in some ways when it comes to relationship opportunities, but we know that 98% of the time it's the man who messages the women first (or in real life, approaches the woman first). Therefore, the woman is confronted with a decision to respond or not. It's right there in your hands.
So ladies, do you ever regret the decision to not respond to a guy who may have been pretty cool, funny, yet wasn't your ideal? Or perhaps he "fell" through the cracks as you may have been inundated with lots of messages at the time? Have you ever gone back to his profile after a few months just to get back on his radar?
The rare wink or message I get online is nearly always from unattractive women who sometimes have kids, are divorced, etc, which is not what I want. So, I have no regrets in not responding to them.
For guys, our regret is usually "Damn I should've approached that girl at the bar" or "should've messaged that girl", ie the decision to iniate or not.
I'd still prefer to meet in person vs online. Online isn't as natural.
This just happened to me. I was emailing with 2 different girls on Match recently. Both conversations were going well (each writing 2 to 3 emails back n' forth), then I asked for the phone number (providing mine as well in case she just wanted to text me so that I'd have hers), and didn't get any response. It's been 2 weeks.
I can't imagine that I offended them in any way, so it must be the case of bad timing where they're also chatting with a bunch of other guys...and I was put on the back burner.
Or you may have caught her at the wrong time when she was starting to put all her eggs into one basket and you happened to slip into the picture right then and there. At the last minute.
Doesn't mean you don't have a chance and she'll drop you in an instant.
If you're a chick who sends me a message on a dating site and I don't respond, take it as a major insult. I respond to just about anyone who doesn't have 12 chins, a goatee, or several missing teeth.
I funnel the chicks who email me into two categories: booty calls I'm okay with my friends seeing me with ; and booty calls I keep on the d-low.
WOW, so you use it for booty calls? You are the type of guy that I run from, run real fast from!
I am reasonably fit, but I am neither tall nor White, I guess that explains the reason why I have such low response rates on the internet.
Oh btw, I came to know that even 5'8" is considered short for men these days, I had this chick messaging me y'day that I was too short for her, and she's only 5'8" too for that matter
I talked with a guy who was really nice and seemed cool, but he lived about 90 miles away. When he asked me if he could take me on a date I stopped responding just because I didn't wanna deal with long distance relationships at the time. I still don't, but sometimes I wish I would've gone ahead and gave him a shot.
Another guy was very polite and asked me out but I didn't respond because he wasn't my type at the time. That was about 2 years ago and my "type" has changed. He somewhat fits what I'm interested in now and seems sweet. Too bad for me.
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