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College these days is filled with all ages. No, it was a one year program like some LPN certificates, same thing. Doesn't really matter though. I doubt the two experiences I had with it as an adult were all that isolated. And the workplace I also mentioned, nurses from 20s to 70s. I think it largely has to do with boredom. Nothing better to do. Or so they think.
Idle hands (boredom) are the devils workshop
In my opinion, the more highly educated and professional status a person has, the less this kind of thing happens, which is why I asked if this happened at a university.
But my question was, what age reunion was this where you said the cliques didn't mix? And since you didn't even attend how can you know exactly what happened?
It was the 20th. That's the post of yours I commented on. It was the 10th that I missed.
But as I pointed out, it happens in colleges where adults attend with you and it's often hard to remove yourself from the situation. I had to become a loner in class to avoid it and that was just more fuel for them. LOL
This may be due to people growing up around the same people for a majority of their lives. If people had the opportunity to really get away from home and interact with other people, cultures etc., they may not think so cliquey. But....we all can't just leave home, unfortunately.
Adult life, socializing and romance in the 'real world' functions pretty much like high school. People try to fill their social circle with those from the highest hierarchy they can, whether that be looks, money, social popularity, race, etc. People also tend to settle and congregate in homogeneous cliques.
Those who they feel are below them they will exclude and they will actively reach for those they feel are above them.
People may through work and school or activities socialize or even become close with somebody they feel are below them, but they will never 'accept' that person in their fully functioning social circle in earnest (think Breakfast Club).
Agree or disagree?
Discuss...
Disagree.
1) Most of the popular girls at my HS were popular because they developed early, put out early and started drinking early. I'd say more than half of them now are fugly.
2) Most of the popular guys...same thing, developed and started partying early, and were good at sports. Unless you are a pro athlete, women don't care about how good you are at sports any more. Also, many of those guys now look older than they are, didn't care about education, and are stuck in low-paying jobs.
I do agree that adults care to an extent about their social circle, but it's changed to what job you have and who you know. But especially among men, this doesn't matter too much. Fat, broke...whatever, it's more about personality. I think women can still be caddy and shallow when it comes to their friends, but it's not like in high school where the thing the have most in common is proximity.
Completely different in my experience. And this was a "morally superior" Catholic high school. Held at a hotel, people walked into the ballroom and made a dash to their high school friends. There was ZERO interaction between the cliques. Fortunately, I was going to be in town anyway - I was catching a flight out of the international airport the next day to go to Europe.
I think this would make for a great poll - did people change at you HS reunions?
haha this thread reminds me of that movie "Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion".
In my opinion, the more highly educated and professional status a person has, the less this kind of thing happens, which is why I asked if this happened at a university.
For some odd reason - since I don't usually enjoy watching television - I've been getting a kick out of the show "The Big Bang Theory", in which a bunch of geeks go through their typical day.
Funny thing is, even though they're blinding smart in science and math, they're sorely lacking in social graces.
Having worked for some very large research companies, I can attest to the fact that professional status does not necessarily bestow social grace.
If anything, it's gotten worse since HS. At 43 and surrounded by 30-somethings and even a few 40-somethings who still act like teenagers and early 20-somethings with the 'like, like, like' crap and the Sex and (or is it in?) the City gabbiness in the office it's horrendous at best.
It seems in some situations, people are fine. But they get around another group or circle and they're like different people.
Some of the women at school were great to talk with. Very intelligent and all. Then they get around a certain group and they're back in high school again--as seemed to be the case with the school I mentioned and my work where the nurses ranged from early 20s to 70s. Well, there was only one senior citizen who partook of the clichiness from time to time but alone or in different situations, she was awesome. My favorite nurse in fact. Take Morrison's word for it, people are strange.
You are VERY right. I've tried to rep numerous times. This type of crap happens EVERYWHERE and anywhere. Even the local shooting range is the mens locker room. You can't get away from it. It's even in the Police Departments. Rep X every post you made.
It seems in some situations, people are fine. But they get around another group or circle and they're like different people.
Take Morrison's word for it, people are strange.
Yup. People never change. So glad I don't associate with the hs crowd - even at the reunions, they are still living in the past (glory days), now most look worn, out, tired, bunch of whiners.
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Would be interesting to see how it all goes at your 30th reunion!
LOL
haha this thread reminds me of that movie "Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion".
