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And I have this female friend who I hang out with alot :/
Like 3/7 days but I see her more days then that because of school and I sometimes give her rides to work >.>
Anyway she has a BF.
That makes it weird right? She doesn't seem to see anything wrong with it.
I've never attempted to talk about it or question it cus I don't wanna ruin anything
But umm can she really see me as just a friend?
Cus I definitely can't.
I crave her and I suffer not being able to go in for the kill.
She's hot.
No one really knows about this...
Is she cheating?
I've kind of said and "flirted" but I've never done anything considered super inappropriate with a taken girl.
What to do.... I'm not doing anything wrong
Just waiting for the day she drops that fool and I strike.
that's the plan
Some can but I never can kill the attraction. Maybe they are just a friend, but I still am attracted to them. I know, that's not right. Therefore, I don't have any in real life. I can't hang out with a attractive woman and not look at her in a sexual way. Sorry, I'm a man. I also have little in common with most women. Unless they want to fish, shoot guns, ride dirt bikes, work on cars etc... I can't help them much.
No a heterosexual boy and girl cannot truly be friends. As the OP mentioned, that is not a true friendship since she has the power over him since he is attracted. Only women will say that men and women can be friends because they either are naive about how they string guys along or know fuly well what they're doing and don't really care about his feelings. Guys for the most part aren't mean enough to string along a girl they aren't interested in but its extremely common for women.
You are right on the money. Most of the time, opposite-sex friendships is used for "benefits". That's one of the reasons why I have no female friends.
They can be friends as long as there's no, or minimal attraction.
If there is, and the person with the feelings can deal with constant rejection, and put it behind them, there is a slight hope.
Otherwise, doomed to fail.
How do you fancy seeing the person you have feelings for have a whole string of men ?
Having to listen to her spill her guts about her latest failed romance and trying to make her feel better, while you're hurting inside ?
Having to listen to her repetedly talk about how great her new guy is.
IMHO, you're not being her friend. You're only being friendly with the hope of something more.
To the OP: She's not a "friend." You're there to break up their relationship and to get her as your GF. So knock off the "just friends" silliness. My advice. Forget it. You're wasting your time and your energy. You're in the "friend" zone. If she wanted you, she wouldn't still have a BF.
No a heterosexual boy and girl cannot truly be friends. As the OP mentioned, that is not a true friendship since she has the power over him since he is attracted. Only women will say that men and women can be friends because they either are naive about how they string guys along or know fuly well what they're doing and don't really care about his feelings. Guys for the most part aren't mean enough to string along a girl they aren't interested in but its extremely common for women.
So a girl can be naive about it?
In other words not realize it?
Depends on the relationship - I've been friends with one girl since we were in high school. We dated for a couple months and left it at that, long distance didn't work. We still see eachother every few months or so , talk to eachother fairly often, either on facebook or texting. I'm now married, her and my wife talk on their own now and then. Probably helps we've known eachother going on 12 years now. But, proof positive it works, it completely depends on the people.
A man and a woman can be just friends. Generally, however, that is not realistic as there is typically some kind of attraction or sexual tension between, from at least one or both.
OP, you cannot be just her friend and you know it. Since you hang out a lot, I think the best thing to do is to be honest with her. It is a risk. She has a BF. however, you are attracted to her, and posing as a "friend." If you keep that arrangement, fearing she will reject you if you pose your feelings, your likely just to be disappointed in the end anyway.
You're wondering if she's secretly attracted to you. That is something none of us can know.
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So a girl can be naive about it?
In other words not realize it?
Yes. I used to be naive about it but not anymore.
You could always just tell her that you can not hang out with her and play buddy anymore because you like her but respect that she has a boyfriend. Tell her that if she ever ends that relationships that you'd love it if she calls you.
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And I have this female friend who I hang out with alot :/
Like 3/7 days but I see her more days then that because of school and I sometimes give her rides to work >.>
Anyway she has a BF.
That makes it weird right? She doesn't seem to see anything wrong with it.
I've never attempted to talk about it or question it cus I don't wanna ruin anything
But umm can she really see me as just a friend?
Cus I definitely can't.
I crave her and I suffer not being able to go in for the kill.
She's hot.
No one really knows about this...
Is she cheating?
I've kind of said and "flirted" but I've never done anything considered super inappropriate with a taken girl.
What to do.... I'm not doing anything wrong
Just waiting for the day she drops that fool and I strike.
that's the plan
You are going to be waiting a long time...........
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What to do.... I'm not doing anything wrong
