Your Type... (dating, wife, girlfriends, married)

[HappyinNY]

I heard this over and over from many different people. "He/she is nice guy/gal and all but he/she is just not my type."



Who is your type?

Does that person need to fit in your description of your type for you to find that person interesting and attractive?

If your type is someone like Jessica Alba, can a person who is a plus size like Rosie O' Donnell be attractive if they are nice and fun to be around. Or is not possible cause the physical type of attraction is not there?


What are your thoughts on this?

[CityGirl72]

When I was dating I knew my type - but I've long since forgotten

I know I like my men tall - 6'2" or taller (I'm 5'5')
I usually like bigger - over 200 pounds - not beefy like muscles - I'm okay with a bit out of shape - we all are
I like (now) men in their 40s, at least late 30s
I perfer highly educated and high power positions
I like men who laugh and are flirty and fun - but know the balance of staying home with his family (I don't like to be a golf widow)
He has to be fairly neat because I'm fairly sloppy. I am not a good house wife - I don't clean much or cook much, so I need a man who is not looking for June Cleaver.
I also like a man who is confident and experiemental in bed. But doesn't look for the action every night - and understands that sometimes it just won't happen for a week or so if family schedules are busy and sleep comes first.

I've often told people I need a cross of Bill Clinton (40s) and Russel Crowe. My husband actually bought me a Bill Clinton table book and calls it my "porn"

That's all I can remember from my single days - I'l add more if I can

[Claire_F]

I never really had a specific "type" when I was single. I think the only times I used that phrase (if ever) was when there was no chemistry.

Personally, my attraction to people depends on their personality. A guy could be named People's Sexiest Man Alive, but if they're an ass, they'll be ugly to me.

On the other hand, they can be goofy-looking, but with the right personality, still be very sexy. I'd do Ryan Stiles in a heartbeat. (Well, if I wasn't married. Small technicality.)

[Pikantari]

My type...hmm.... I have no clue.

Guess after a while I will figure it out. Will get back to you on that one

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by HappyinNY

I heard this over and over from many different people. "He/she is nice guy/gal and all but he/she is just not my type."



Who is your type?

Does that person need to fit in your description of your type for you to find that person interesting and attractive?

If your type is someone like Jessica Alba, can a person who is a plus size like Rosie O' Donnell be attractive if they are nice and fun to be around. Or is not possible cause the physical type of attraction is not there?


What are your thoughts on this?

If we're talking friends, I'm attracted to a kind and compassionate person...who is intellectual...not b/c they have a college degree, but b/c of their life experiences....it is difficult to find someone who is a listener and a fair person...who doesn't judge people by their size, and someone who is not afraid...but more so, informed...fear a lot of times is caused by a lack of knowledge....I hate soap operas, gossip and shopping, and love the stories men have to tell. It always amazes me, people like Sweden and Rance, for instance, who love nature and do not fear living by the basics...to me, those two are not only meant for each other but practice a religion daily, which is far more impressive then you person who spends one or two hours a week in church, they live by examply and do not brag about it...highly moral and caring people...they are confident in themselves and their choices...their instituion about life...they are polite...and from them, there could be much learned. In their humbleness, they are great people....

Physical attraction is a dime store attitude...you can be the most attractive person in the world, yet, possess not an ounce of compassion, and be very big on self imposed concerns...and that kind of person, really makes me sad, b/c they are missing so much of life....if you own nothing inside, you don't have much to offer, do you?

those are the kind of people who attract me....and make it all worthwhile...

[country pride]

For starters, two people to be compatible, they need to have common interests. Usually, more than just one. A person can be physically attracted to another but without having anything in common, it could get bad before it even starts.

[Dennis58]

Ive always felt that to tell someone "you're not my type", was just a polite way to tell someone you like them, but just wouldnt want to date them in a romantic sense. Many times, it seems that one person wants to be friends with he/she, but cant really because the other person wants more than friendship. But sometimes, the saying can really be true. Ive met women who were pretty, and outgoing and all, but their demeanor and personalites really did make them "not my type". And, for me at least, personality and general mannerisms have always been much more important than the womans looks.

[bluegrassgirl]

In sixteen years, I've only cared about two men. One about a year and a half ago and one currently. I can say that neither one matches what I would have put on a piece of paper 20-25 years ago as a "perfect" man physically. Both were friends before I ever had any romantic notions about them. I've learned that for me, what makes a man attractive to me in COMPLETELY on the inside. Developing that friendship and trust with a person allows you to truly learn what "type" they are before you start thinking about the external stuff.

My "type" not in any particular order
compassionate
smart
enjoys sports
enjoys kids
appreciates kindnesses
affectionate
honest
loyal
good work ethics
playful
funny
has faith in God
romantic
enjoys his alone time
allows me alone time

hmmmm, I think I just described my dog for the most part!

[LittleMissSunshine]

I have dated so many people that don't fit this description...but if I could create a man, these would be the requirements

1. Taller than me (I am only 5'4 so this isn't hard, but you'd be suprised sometimes who I run into lol )

2. Pudgy. Yes, pudgy. I can't date a thin guy. I love to eat and I want someone to eat with lol. Not saying I want someone so fat it's unhealthy, but just a lil pudge...like a teddy bear like quality.

3. Someone who loves to go out and loves to stay in. (Sort of a contradiciton, but that's how I roll )

4. Dark hair and eyes or dark hair and green eyes.

5. Italian / Greek / Spanish type coloring.

6. Treats his mom and family well

7. Has a passion

8. Older than me by at least 5 years.

9. Respects that I still have friends who need some of my time.

[lionking]

My type?Voluptuous with hour glass figuire,with alot of junk in the trunk and buxom.Smaller waist with flaring hips drives me nuts,specially if her tummy is a bit flabby,though slim if highly stacked on top does also.

I have had girlfriends of various types though,sometimes even though a girl isn't your ideal looks wise chemistry takes over.

Don't mind a girl that likes to party once in a while but no alchoholics or druggies please.Must not be a loafer,and must be affectionate and a bit submissive sexually or at least open to ideas.....specially oral magic because that ranks high on my list of things I desire,and must be not shy about the "end product"...and where it goes...or covers.

Must be willing to allow me a certain amount of free time,which I want her to have also.Duties around the house I'll share,but must make some sort of income even if it's working at Burger King.And I'd rather have a girlfriend that worked at Burger King that satisfies in the other aboved criteria than have a girlfriend who is a well off professional that doesn't.

One more thing,I'm not a fan of tattoos at all,though I'll overlook it as long as she isn't covered with them specially on her boobs and bottom .Kids?I can deal with one,but several specially if she isn't good to them I won't deal with either.