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And if it did become serious, then what do you say about your age?
You buy her a really nice pair of shoes and tell her there's something you need to discuss. The sex partner remark never changes, that she does not need to know.
A rule of thumb in life... It's better to ask forgiveness than permission.
Do you go to the same spots over and over? Or always go somewhere new? If you're always going somewhere new, you probably won't really develop any real friendships. Maybe just bowl at a certain bowling alley, go to happy hour at a certain bar or whatever. You'll be one of the "regulars" that everyone will recognize and you'll interact more and more with them and possibly develop some friendships. You seem outgoing enough.
Now if this is about women. Try not looking for 30 year old women (if you can tell) for relationships. As said before, most women want someone older or around their same age. Then again, you're at a weird age where if you go too young with women, you're asking for trouble and too old, they'll ignore your efforts. If you can't find them when you go out, maybe try online dating? You aren't a bad looking guy.
I'd say just live your life. There's no reason to depend on other people for happiness. I'm single and have relatively few friends myself, but I love my life and enjoy just doing what I do. Try to keep yourself busy so you don't think about being lonely too much. Sure, it's going to happen, but you can keep it to a minimum.
Do you go to the same spots over and over? Or always go somewhere new? If you're always going somewhere new, you probably won't really develop any real friendships. Maybe just bowl at a certain bowling alley, go to happy hour at a certain bar or whatever. You'll be one of the "regulars" that everyone will recognize and you'll interact more and more with them and possibly develop some friendships. You seem outgoing enough.
Now if this is about women. Try not looking for 30 year old women (if you can tell) for relationships. As said before, most women want someone older or around their same age. Then again, you're at a weird age where if you go too young with women, you're asking for trouble and too old, they'll ignore your efforts. If you can't find them when you go out, maybe try online dating? You aren't a bad looking guy.
I'd say just live your life. There's no reason to depend on other people for happiness. I'm single and have relatively few friends myself, but I love my life and enjoy just doing what I do. Try to keep yourself busy so you don't think about being lonely too much. Sure, it's going to happen, but you can keep it to a minimum.
Bingo! I dont go out looking for older woman, I happen to talk to them and then they end up revealing that they are in there 30's. As far as online dating ive been doing it on and off for 2 years and,I may meet one or 2 people, but ive never had anything that lasted long off of it. And no I dont go to new spots all the time, I do have my favorite hangout sections.
I have a question for everyone. How do you all deal with loneliness?
To make a long story short I dont have any friends and I dont have any relationship prospects. Anytime I go do an activity that I would normally enjoy, I feel depression because the feeling of not having someone with me. Just some answers and suggestions would be helpful.
I have never been alone.
What is your age and sex?
You should just talk with people and built a rapport. Meet with them later.
OP, don't be too quick to write off your work colleagues even if they are much older than you. When I was in my fifties I had friends of all ages from mid-twenties to mid-nineties. Friendships don't always have to be forged with those who are a similar age. Once you have a few friends of any age, and socialise with them, you will undoubtedly come into contact with those of your own age. Don't forget that a lot of people in their fifties have daughters in their twenties!
I have no friends either, just a couple of same gender pal/aquaintances I may go to lunch and/or shopping w/ every 4-7 months. I sure don't talk on the phone w/ them on any kind of regular basis. I DO have a significant other (SO) though who I've been dating for a long time, so we do quite a lot together & see each other about every other day. We don't live together...we don't believe in that, but we'd like to get married eventually. He doesn't really have any friends either, except a guy he only sees occasionally, so he has the same kind of friendship(s) I have, but he does have a brother he's pretty close to. I have yet to live alone ever in my life, which may hopefully happen THIS summer, so it will be interesting to see how "lonely" I'll feel.
For me, how to make good friends is the million dollar question. Everywhere I go, which aren't many places at all really, everyone has their own set of friends, so are they going to really want to hang out w/ me? Probably not. They would if I initiated something, but I don't likefeeling like I'm doing all the initiating & they're doing nothing on their end. A friendship to me should be 50/50. I'm biracial (& a very unusual combination of ethnicities at that) & an only child who's always been on the serious side ever since I was a child, so I believe those 2 things also affect my life. Only my parents & SO truly know how funny I am.
I've never been the club/bar scene/drinker/partier type. I literally go to work & when I'm not there, I'm browsing/shopping the mall or some other stores, maybe at the gym, or grocery shopping. I used to attend church w/ my mom, but I stopped going about 5-6 yrs ago now. I guess I don't do much. I'm at home a LOT. I'm glad I have a SO, so I can't imagine not having friends nor a significant other at the same time since I've had a SO literally since I was 18 & my current SO is only my second SO I've ever had.
I started this thread, which you could probably relate to well:
By the way, you look like a really nice guy & the type who would have no problem making friends. I see guys who look like you w/ your style in my area of southern CA all the time. If you ever want to vent or talk to someone who would understand your sitauion, PM me via this board!
Oh, have you ever tried going to MeetUp.com & seing what kinds of social groups there are that would interest you? To me, it would feel funny being this one person & joining a group who's probably already like one big happy family, so I don't know about that. I'd have to really, really, really be lonely to even want to try that.
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I have a question for everyone. How do you all deal with loneliness?
To make a long story short I dont have any friends and I dont have any relationship prospects. Anytime I go do an activity that I would normally enjoy, I feel depression because the feeling of not having someone with me. Just some answers and suggestions would be helpful.
My first suggestion is to see a doctor about your depression. If it is bad enough, lonliness can be unbearable. I do think everyone gets lonely at some time in their life, it is just important to realize when the lonliness is just sometimes or if you feel it all the time. Are you able to smile at other people and say "Good Morning" or "Hello" or start a conversation. If a person smiles at you first do you say "hello" or "nice day" or "good morning"? A smile from someone is usually an opening to have a short conversation.
Don't shut yourself down from the people around you. My husband is amazed at how I talk to EVERYONE when I am out shopping with him. Sometimes I see the same people over and over while shopping and have made one lifelong friend already just by being openly friendly.
My suggestion, if your living situation will allow it, get a dog. Rescue a dog from a shelter and walk it in a doggie park or on your street. Other people with dogs will be there and WE all talk!! Good luck and before you attempt any of the above, get a good physical and talk to a doctor about your depression...not normal to be so sad all the time. Good Luck with this..
sleeping pills,tyenol pm,bendrayl,city data forum,music
*serious answer not trolling
My goodness..how can you suggest sleeping pills, tylenol pm or benadryl to someone who is perhaps depressed! The city data forum is a great suggestion but not the pills!! If this person is having issues sleeping, get outside during the day and walk or loosen up with his coworkers and TALK...pills solve nothing.
My goodness..how can you suggest sleeping pills, tylenol pm or benadryl to someone who is perhaps depressed! The city data forum is a great suggestion but not the pills!! If this person is having issues sleeping, get outside during the day and walk or loosen up with his coworkers and TALK...pills solve nothing.
I think L'Artiste was just sharing how she deals with loneliness in answer to the OP's question. She is not suggesting he do those things.
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