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So there is this girl I work with, who I am absolutely infatuated with. We are good friends in the office, and have hung out together outside the office. The thing I totally dig about her, is that she is always happy, naturally kind of goofy, and we can just play off each other forever. She would be the perfect girl for me to date.
But since we work together, I know I shouldn't act on these feelings. I think she may also feel that way too. But for some reason, I have the biggest crush on this girl and I can't get her off my mind.
So there is this girl I work with, who I am absolutely infatuated with. We are good friends in the office, and have hung out together outside the office. The thing I totally dig about her, is that she is always happy, naturally kind of goofy, and we can just play off each other forever. She would be the perfect girl for me to date.
But since we work together, I know I shouldn't act on these feelings. I think she may also feel that way too. But for some reason, I have the biggest crush on this girl and I can't get her off my mind.
Someone help!!!
Just don't do anything...
Convince yourself that she's not for you and/or you wouldn't be able to get her. Just let it lie, and chase after other women.
I have been in this position quite a few times with coworkers and classmates, and when I have acted on it and gotten rejected, it becomes MUCH WORSE. Like after the rejection, I'm ABSOLUTELY in love with them and it's absolutely painful being around them. In the cases where I've let my crushes die a natural death, nothing bad ever becomes of it. I can barely remember most of those women.
Just an aside ... you should have hit on her much earlier...
unless she has a boyfriend or husband why shouldn't you act on your feelings.. who cares about rejection.. she's not paying your bills, buying your food.. she's nothing to you except a cool hot girl. go for the gold, if she rejects you, pretend like it didnt happen and just be normal around her if it happens.
if she doesn't reject you, success.
Only you can decide to think or not to think about her. You already know the answers:
a. Either date the girl
b. Or don't
Both of you have full control in relation to having any kind of relationship or not, but only you have control of your own emotions. Infatuation is just that, your own feelings. Just don't forget that every one of us only sees what one chooses to see on others, and most times the things we see (perceive) are things the makes one happy, comfortable, excited, and so forth...all learned through one's life from childhood.
So there is this girl I work with, who I am absolutely infatuated with. We are good friends in the office, and have hung out together outside the office. The thing I totally dig about her, is that she is always happy, naturally kind of goofy, and we can just play off each other forever. She would be the perfect girl for me to date.
But since we work together, I know I shouldn't act on these feelings. I think she may also feel that way too. But for some reason, I have the biggest crush on this girl and I can't get her off my mind.
Someone help!!!
I am not seeing a problem here. What's wrong with dating a co-worker?
It's not a big deal to hit on a coworker ... except for the fact that he said he is absolutely infatuated with her and can't stop thinking about her.
Not good my friends. Who has been there before? I have. And the rejection will not be good.
Let's be positive. She may like him, too. Besides I have dated and been in relationships with co-workers (including my former fiance). No issues. No worries.
rejection is overrated. his infatuation is worse. if he gets rejected, infatuation over. if he doesn't get rejected, he's gona get what he wanted. its a win-win for him if he makes his move. just don't do it during company hours.
Let's be positive. She may like him, too. Besides I have dated and been in relationships with co-workers (including my former fiance). No issues. No worries.
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Originally Posted by expect
rejection is overrated. his infatuation is worse. if he gets rejected, infatuation over. if he doesn't get rejected, he's gona get what he wanted. its a win-win for him if he makes his move. just don't do it during company hours.
Perhaps.
Putting aside the litany of reasons to not date a co-worker even if there is mutual interest, I don't see the reward exceeding the risk here.
Rejection does not end infatuation when you have to see that person every day. It fuels it. Believe me.
If he posted something like "This girl at this place I just started working at is cute.", I'd say by all means go for it.
But if I'm ever in OP's situation again, I certainly will not go for it ...
Molson1020...all you can do is ask her out...maybe she will, maybe she won't...I can't see any harm coming from asking...or being her friend.
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