How would you interpret this man's behavior?

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by Mentat

[FONT=Verdana]So we renewed our friendship and were very supportive toward one another since we're both having emotional ups and downs from our divorces. There was nothing romantic at all--just friends. In early 2011 we're both officially divorced. To make a long story short, we spend a lot of time talking as friends--and it was great. [/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana]Then, in Feb. 2011 he lost both his parents, to whom he was very close. I was there for him throughout the entire ordeal. He started seeing a therapist, and was doing well with dealing with the upheaval in his life.[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana]By Christmas 2011, we started talking about our feelings for one another and why we never got together romantically. He said that back in 2001, he didn't think I was interested in him that way because I wasn't that open about myself. (From my perspective, I had been very open with him.) [FONT=Verdana]Anyway[/FONT], we were very honest with each other about our feelings and admitted that we really cared about one another. [/FONT]

Is this is the same guy as the one in the post below, where it sounded like you were officially dating exclusively for a couple of months?

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Originally Posted by Mentat

Thank you maddog1.

Believe it or not, he called me twice in the last two days and left messages! Unbelievable. I'm not going to respond.

I am moving on.

I'm willing to wager that he met someone and it didn't work out, and now he wants to be all buddy-buddy with you again.

[Mentat]

Originally Posted by Yzette

Is this is the same guy as the one in the post below, where it sounded like you were officially dating exclusively for a couple of months?

Yes. Things seemed to be going well at that point--we were spending all of our free time together and really enjoying each other's company.

Originally Posted by Yzette

I'm willing to wager that he met someone and it didn't work out, and now he wants to be all buddy-buddy with you again.

Could be. But I guess I'll never know since I'm through with him.

It's not even only about any miscommunication regarding whether we were dating or not. I just get incensed thinking that he didn't even care that I was worried for so long about whether he was ill or dead. I told him in a couple of messages that I was worried sick about him. The least he could have done was left a message saying, "I'm okay, but I just need to be alone now." At least that would have shown some consideration for me. His behavior was completely rude and inconsiderate.