Hi girls, how big of a age difference would you go? (boyfriend, woman)
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I'm 28 and dated a guy who was 37 for a while... age doesn't matter all that much, it's more about maturity and where he is in life. The 37 year old I dated grew pot for a living, spent most of his days skateboarding and thought it was funny to video himself farting and send it to his nephews. So yeah, not exactly mature.
However, the 25 year old I'm currently dating has his stuff together, is working towards a goal, is well spoken and very intelligent. Hes far more attractive to me than the 37 year old ever was.
I'm 32, almost 33. I won't go any higher than 45 and no lower than 28.
Thats about normal, as a man I have a similar range but reversed and it is only loose. If I met a great woman who was out of my range I definately wouldn't say no. Like Miu I dated up 20 years older when I was 30. The only thing that was odd to me was her ex was 20 years older than her.
What's interesting is when you go to some countries outside of the US many women have an extreme upper limit for men. They don't seem to have age bias that we have.
I assume you meant you are dating someone 23 years "younger" than you? So, you are not willing to date someone even ten years older than yourself due to the fear of becoming a "caretaker" for someone else -- but its perfectly fine for *you* to date someone who is 23 years younger than yourself who will be in the same position in potentially 10-15 years?
I don't have a set demographic demographic range and I think establishing one as a hard guideline is, for me, fairly meaningless and perhaps even shallow in general. I also hate expectations of how anyone "should" act because they are a certain age. Yes, that is related.
I want to be with someone because we have similar views about life, compatible ideas about having fun, and can enjoying sharing both that which we have in common and that which we see differently. And most of all because I enjoy their company. That's rare enough to find in the first place without making arbitrary demographic requirements that don't necessarily have any bearing on the above.
In practice, when I was younger, I tended to be attracted to men that were slightly older than I was for the most part. Now, it's usually, but not always, that the men are a few years younger. This is largely because I don't think that being an adult/being mature means that one has to be overly serious or stuffy just because. There are times to be serious, but there should also be times to have fun. Ruling anything out just because "it's not done at the age of <x>" or even having that attitude is a definite deal-breaker.
Up until this point in my life, I think the men I have been attracted to or dated have all been within five years of my own age, albeit the range seems to be greater for younger men. I think the oldest man I ever dated was three years older than me. I neither need nor wish for a man to provide wisdom, maturity, or anything else in the sense of giving me something I supposedly lack. I can take care of myself just fine.
Currently, the man to whom I am attracted is eleven years younger than I am. That was nothing I was looking for, though, it just happened. That, however, would be another post.
Oh this thread again...I've heard plenty of girls say they wouldn't date a guy "more than 5 years older than them", only to go out with me anyway. Never had any problem dating girls 10-15 years younger than me, and they never had a problem with it, either. All that nonsense is just a bunch of noise single women in their 30s perpetrate because successful, attractive guys their age don't want anything to do with them. Sorry, I'm not interested in your ex-husbands, children, or endless baggage.
And how about the women posting here that are saying they are dating 10 to 20+ years younger
That may be true but I don't remember seeing them talking incessantly about how 'unsexy' 'downhill' and 'past their prime' those older men are.
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