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A professional what?
doctor?
no broken bones
shrink?
sure I may work down a depression or whatever it is, but it's not like they can make me fundamentally change, nor give dating tips...
"lifecoach?"
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YES, a life coach. If ever someone needed one, you do.
Besides taking a shower, are you well groomed and neatly dressed? Do you have a sense of humor? I don't know any guy, even ugly ones who can't get one out of 1,000 women so something doesn't seem right.
It's not how well dressed you are, or whether you are with your buddies or whatever. Not if you have been rejected that much and never succeeded. You need help from someone who can be there in person, whatever it is they should be able to tell you, online we really can't be of as much help.
How is it even possible to pass the 4 digit mark in rejections and not get one 'yes'? There must be something SERIOUSLY off with your manner or your appearance dude, that is statistically far, far from normal. Ask your buddies, I'm sure they know just what it is, then maybe yes a life coach or something, can't hurt, it takes courage to fix things like this.
It's not how well dressed you are, or whether you are with your buddies or whatever. Not if you have been rejected that much and never succeeded. You need help from someone who can be there in person, whatever it is they should be able to tell you, online we really can't be of as much help.
How is it even possible to pass the 4 digit mark in rejections and not get one 'yes'? There must be something SERIOUSLY off with your manner or your appearance dude, that is statistically far, far from normal. Ask your buddies, I'm sure they know just what it is, then maybe yes a life coach or something, can't hurt, it takes courage to fix things like this.
He knows what the problem is, he said so himself...
HE HAS NO SOCIAL SKILLS.
Well, dang, he can develop some if he'll quit drinking and venting long enough to get some real help.
I just have little patience for people who throw themselves a pity party when they don't get what they claim they want so badly, when they haven't even made the effort to fix the problem
It's more than that. Plenty of guys don't have good social skills and get by. There are also lots of lonely girls out there. If he has asked a thousand out and been rejected a thousand times then it is more than his social skills.
From what I can gather, yes, do not be drunk when you do this. It won't help at all, you will get rejected every time if you are wasted. Have just a couple drinks to relax and loosen up, just a couple.
Also it sounds like you are defeated, you are going at it with a sadsack attitude. No one wants to be approached by eeyore, dude. It sounds like you have conceded defeat before you even walk up to them. If that's the case, why bother at all? Just hoping you randomly get lucky one time? That's like halfheartedly swinging a baseball bat and hoping for a home run.
If you are depressed and defeated, that will come across, and girls will want nothing to do with you. Work on that, first and foremost. Forget about asking girls out for now, try to make yourself happy. No one wants to go out with someone who is unhappy, who has nothing going on in their life. Take time to do stuff you like, take up a hobby or something, focus on making yourself happy. Would you even be happy if a girl said 'yes' to you one time? It sounds like you are lacking in more areas than this one, some girl is not going to just fill the void for you. Learn to enjoy doing your own thing.
You seemed baffled by why you're not hooking up. You don't have any idea why they're blowing you off???? I don't buy that.
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Originally Posted by mir86
I don't know any guy, even ugly ones who can't get one out of 1,000 women so something doesn't seem right.
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Originally Posted by 1208
How is it even possible to pass the 4 digit mark in rejections and not get one 'yes'? There must be something SERIOUSLY off with your manner or your appearance dude, that is statistically far, far from normal. Ask your buddies, I'm sure they know just what it is, then maybe yes a life coach or something, can't hurt, it takes courage to fix things like this.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
I just have little patience for people who throw themselves a pity party when they don't get what they claim they want so badly, when they haven't even made the effort to fix the problem
Awwww young man pick yourself up and smile. You accomplished hard college courses and did more in the dating scene than most. You tried. I will ignore the fat comment. Look at different places to meet people. Take my word for it, clubs aren't where you meet women. They are for hanging with your buds and dancing that's it. Stop looking. I am told. And that goes for you.
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