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A glance to the hand will tell you if there's a wedding ring or not. Some women find single dads very appealing. The fact that they're the primary caregiver indicates a nurturing nature. Compare that to all the jerks women have to deal with when they're dating, and you've got the winning hand.
I'm going to take a guess and say it's not the sex istelf that you miss (because that can be similated through masturbation) but that you miss the closeness that you feel when you are with someone?
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No, it's really not. sex is a sensual experience that i can't recreate on my own.
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It is entirely psychological in origin. Your body does not force you into a depression if you don't have sex, as the actual mechanics are very easy to achieve on your own...your mind does.
One of the experts on sex and the orgasm is Wilhelm Reich. He stated that masturbation is not enough of a quality discharge compared to actual sex with another person.
"Wilhelm Reich concluded that the orgasm in both the male and female of the species has a role that is far more meaningful and important to our well being than a mere pleasure principle working us towards reproduction. In short, he argues that the orgasm helps balance us and restore our sanity when the knocks and disappointments of everyday life threaten to unbalance us. It is a bit like a bar magnet. When it is in its most pure state, the atoms of the magnet are perfectly polarised (our lives are in balance) when it is subject to hammer blows, the magnet loses its perfect polarity and its power (the nitty-gritty wears us down and saps our life energy). Remagnetizing the bar magnet (orgasm's job in us) restores that polarity and our natural sense of well-being."
"Wilhelm Reich explores the direct relationship between neuroses (and most of society is neurotic to varying degrees as a result of being raised in an authoritarian manner) and the inability to surrender completely to the the full bio-energetic pleasure of complete orgasm. If you have studied any Tantra you may be aware that what most of us call orgasm is only a genital sneeze, in terms of the possibility available. Thus, we are cut off from the totality of what we are and this is expressed in the energetics of our experience of orgasm, and ultimately, how we live our lives."
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So get some hobbies, start working out, make some new friends, see a therapist and maybe get some pills for the depression issue. Because otherwise, you're just going to be in a continual cycle.
None of those things address the core problem. He needs to visit a sex worker, or make a strategic move and relocate (even for month) to a place where the everyday women are more open and free spirited to sex and sexuality.
He was telling you it could be a lot worse. He deals with much worse, but doesn't get suicidal. He has too many other things to live for.
Every man is different being that different men have different levels of testosterone. So, for example, one man with low testosterone could go much longer without sex over a man who has a body that produces higher levels of testosterone.
Also, sex is a HUGE component of life, and for some people it's a natural feeling to no longer want to live when you go though long periods of time without sex.
having to resort to convincing someone is pretty demeaning in and of itself.
When it fails (it almost always does) it is extremely depressing, gives me the impression that i have no value as a human being. Especially when these girls are sleeping rather randomly with someone, just never me.
"Wilhelm Reich explores the direct relationship between neuroses (and most of society is neurotic to varying degrees as a result of being raised in an authoritarian manner) and the inability to surrender completely to the the full bio-energetic pleasure of complete orgasm. If you have studied any Tantra you may be aware that what most of us call orgasm is only a genital sneeze, in terms of the possibility available. Thus, we are cut off from the totality of what we are and this is expressed in the energetics of our experience of orgasm, and ultimately, how we live our lives."
So, Reich studied Tantra! Who knew? I'll have to read up on him.
You're spoiled! A lot of guys would kill to be in your position--only a 6 mo. dry spell, 12 max? Awww, poor baby! If a phenomenon this common makes you suicidal, it means you have issues. Maybe abandonment issues from childhood, who knows what kind of issues. But it's not normal to get suicidal from what many would characterize as a short dry spell. Get professional help for your issues.
From what I have researched, 2-3x a week is a good baseline of sexual frequency for an average man.
6 months is entirety too long to go without sex unless you're engaged in warfare or some type of exploration.
Why does it so often turn out like this? Do couples start taking each other for granted, or something? Or they fall into a routine, and it gets boring? What gives?
It's many reasons, for the ones I can think of:
1. Married couples often gain weight and get out of shape, so the sex grinds to a halt because they find each other unattractive.
2. I firmly believe that sex with one person for 5,10, 20+ years is unnatural and unhealthy because there is no variety.
3. For some, marriage was just about locking somebody in to take care of them, so once they got that ring, they stop caring.
4. The husband, wife, or both are secretly having sex with other people outside the marriage.
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